i do everything i think i should but it turns out the same everytime
when i meet a girl i become her friend and get to know her and stuff and have a great time then we become great friends and yet i take it slow not rushing anything and then she starts to flirt with me and stuff
and it'll come time i wanna spend more time with her so i ask her if she wants to do something out side of what we alreaddy do together so i ask her "wanna go do something sometime?" and she will reply no or last time it happend it turned out bad or some lame excuse
and then we are still good friend she still flirts so i actully ask her on a date and she says "no you are just a good friend nothing else"
what am i doing wrong? she is flirting with me so she is leading me on but yet she wants nothing to do with me besides be friends
2006-10-08 16:52:55 · 13 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOUR A GOOD GUY AND THE RIGHT ONE WILL LOVE YOU FOR IT, DON'T WORRY IT WILL HAPPEN!
2006-10-08 16:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're answering your own question. You say that you get to know her and then SHE starts flirting with you.
You're waiting too long to let her know you want more than friendship. Girls know that if they have a relationship with a male friend and it doesn't work out, they won't be able to go back to being just friends again. So they avoid getting involved with established friends.
If you are getting to know a girl because you want a relationship, then you need to let her know your intentions RIGHT FROM THE START. I don't mean you have to make a move right away - you can still take it slow. But you do need to take her out on dates, tell her how beautiful you think she is and how you'd like to know her better, etc.
2006-10-08 17:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been throught this. i guess the thing is that u become too good of a friend and then girls look to u as too much of a nice guy and they seem to see u as their brother rather then just their boyfriend or something. i guess for right now, if u guys hang out a lot, try to isolate urself from her little by little and maybe eventually u guys will miss each other and then that feeling will spark and somethign might happen. or just talk to her about things clearly, not jsut "hey u wanna go do something some time" make her feel special and let her feel that u really care for her and that u have feelings for her. im sure she'll understand. good luck, take care.
2006-10-08 18:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because there are some women (girls) that need attention and want to be wanted. Even if that means using you to get it. They may not be interested in you romantically, they just want attention. What I would suggest is that you let the girl make the first move (if you like her). That way, you don't have to be let down. You'll know that she really is interested in you.
2006-10-08 17:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by alittlecookoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you spent too much time building a friendship instead of a relationship and she doesn't want to bear the fact of never being able to talk to you if you two ever broke up because she'll lose a friend.,
2006-10-08 16:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls naturally flirt and it sounds like you are a good guy. But I suggest that you move on from this chick bc it sounds like to me that she likes the attention. She knows you like her but she continues to put it in your face. To keep it from happening again let your intentions be known up front. That way your chances will be greater...
2006-10-08 17:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by Teapot23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes just being nice to you and not flirting. or you need to stop being so nice to her and being their for her to cry on..and she will not think of you as a friend if your not her friend ...some girls dont like to take it slow..if you never make a move then thats all you are to her is a friend
2006-10-08 16:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by ndn_202 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not insist on anything but friends when in her company from now on. I would be that friend that she can flirt with, but carry on your own relationship outside of that friendship. Don't wait for her and watch her through her relationships. Charish your friendship with her....but live your own love life outside of that.
2006-10-08 17:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by Li Li 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we get confused about the friendship line... we dont want to lose a good friend, so we flirt just a tad, but when it comes down to it , we do NOT want to cross that line...... well, some of us...... there are a few who play the *worm on a hook * game..... *sigh*, but dont worry so much..... the ONE will come tap dancing into your life soon enough....... friends are good..... God bless
2006-10-08 17:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok dear, ya really need to be more direct with this girl or any other girl you want more than a freindship with. speaking from a womens point of view thats what we want. someone that gets to the point. you need to let them know what it is that you want, and let it go from there. trust me.
2006-10-08 16:59:08 · answer #10 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them on a date before it moves to the friend zone! Once you're in the friend zone, it's hard to move on to something more.
2006-10-08 16:55:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋