I am a single mom with only one little girl. I finally got her into her own room. We did a lot of things together to make her room special. So now I find myself checking on her all the time and I can't sleep. I want to pick her up and put her back in my bed. I know that is wrong but I miss my baby.
2006-10-08 16:51:58 · 20 answers · asked by kerry9477 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well you are probably sad because by her sleeping in her own room you have to now accept the fact that she isn't a baby anymore, and that is hard...especially when she is your only one. it also makes them seem so vunerable like they are newborns again and you are in there every 5 min to make sure they are still breathing...it's sad...but you'll get used to it and eventually you will love having your whole bed back!...maybe if you made up a different bedtime routine it would help you and she will love it.
2006-10-08 16:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by my101201cutiepie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep her in her own room, it will help her be more independent & self confident. Besides, 6 yrs it too old to be sleeping w/ mommy. You're having trouble sleeping cuz you felt comfort w/ her in your room cuz you knew she was ok & she was right there by you. She was a comfort to you. Her sleeping w/ you was a bonding moment, now you just need to find other ways to bond, such as, cuddling up on the couch & watching a movie together. Over time you'll get used to her being in her own room and relize she's safe, and you'll enjoy having your own big bed to sleep in, you will beable to sleep well again. Don't put her back in your room, don't go in reverse, change takes time to get used to, just keep at it.
2006-10-08 17:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by tanner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh , Honey ,that is so hearbreaking and sweet, I feel for you being a single Mom and your "sweetums" staying in her own room. But face it, this is a good time for it and CONGRATULATIONS on such a smooth transaction from your bed to hers. When I was married to my ex witch- I mean wife- one of our biggest and last arguments before we split was over this issue( I WANTED HER TO STAY AND SHE DIDN'T in our bed) So if I had been married to you it would have been a no brainer. But anyhow, When you meet someone new at least this won't be an issue that will split you 2 up( Him and you ,that is) All this took place with me,my daughter and her mother in 1976. So ,maybe you two can fall asleep on the couch together on the weekend. I now have 2 grandsons, 8 and 10 and they love to sleep with their step grandma( They call her Mammie) and after they go to bed I get her up and get in bed with them and sleep SO WELL!!! When they wake up and ask about her , 'I say that she was afraid and let me sleep with them to keep the "Boogie Man" away!!! We now have a 7 mo old Granddaughter and when she stays with us we tell her mother (my wife's daughter) that she sleeps in a crib we have , but in reality she sleeps between us. And both of us SLEEP SO WELL!!!!!!! Now , my Mother and Father use to let me get in the bed with them (sometime in the nite ) if I wet the bed or was scared or whatever andit meant a lot to me so if she gets this way by all means LET HER CRAWL BACK IN WITH YOU!!!!!!!
2006-10-08 17:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a hard thing to watch our children grow up and away from us, as we help them toward independence. Independence is the greatest gift you can give your child, as it is the tool that takes them through life with self confidence. If your daughter is sleeping in her own room, she will grow up to handle other "firsts" as well (first failure, first date, first job interview, etc.).
What you are feeling is known as separation anxiety. There is a lot written on the subject. It is what she felt on her first day of school but you told your daughter that you would see her again soon, as she went into her classroom.
Know that nothing changes between you as your daughter goes off to sleep in her own bed. You will see each other in the morning and again at the end of the day.
2006-10-08 17:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to this. My kids both slept with me from the time they were born until their toddler years. They are now 6 & 3 and I miss them. Many times my youngest will wake up in the middle of the night and when he does I let him come cuddle with me. My oldest is a night owl and if he is up when I'm going to bed I'll ask him if he wants to come cuddle and watch tv with me for awhile. I just really miss them when I'm trying to sleep. My husband is on night shift. When he was deployed to Kuwait for six months the kids slept with me nearly every night. It is a comfort and a security issue. You just feel safer and like everyone is okay when you know they're right there with you.
I'm pregnant again and cannot wait to have cuddle time with this little one.
2006-10-08 17:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by Amelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean! Good for you for getting her in her own room! She needs it, and soon you'll start to enjoy the extra room in your bed. I'm sure this is harder on you than her! I sleep with my 2 year old and I am expecting another, so I have to get her into her own bed soon, and I am dreading it! I love cuddling with her! It is our time to cuddle. They are so precious when they are sleeping!
2006-10-08 16:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by butterfliesbrown 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww that is so sweet. Seperation, thats what that is. I did not like putting my little boy in his own room either. One thing is because you are a single mom and now your alone. Its okay though you will get used to it and eventually enjoy having your space more often.
2006-10-08 16:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by DeborahUlloa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's 6 years old...that's a little girl not a baby. I understand the separation anxiety, but this is important for your childs emotional health...little independence is a good teacher for later, but she still needs you in other areas of her life...just NOT sleeping with her
2006-10-08 16:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you finally meet someone you want to take home you'll be glad that she is in her own room. She also needs to learn how to be independant from you. I know it its hard I have five children and are on my own with them. Both you and her will be better off in the long run and you will both survive.
2006-10-08 17:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about holding her in your arms for say, 10 minutes before bed? Silently give her all your mother love straight from your heart. Don't worry, mother love never runs out.
When you separate, keep sending her love.
If this problem keeps bothering you, I recommend turning within to study the nature of Love itself. See for yourself if separation is real, or merely a mental construct.
2006-10-08 17:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by avocaronico 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋