I was just wondering this b/c it's so not fair that they expect women to be all perfect and we have to except them for better and worse no matter what.
2006-10-08 16:51:05 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hun, you just aren't projecting the right kind of attitude. I am a full figured woman and I get hit on ALL the time, by all kinds of guys. I have no shortage of people who want to be with me.
Want to know the secret? Its my attitude. Guys LOVE the fact that I'm not obsessed with my looks, I can party with the boys, look like a lady and I'm all in when it comes to sex. People can tell when I walk in a room that I think I'm bada$$ and that I'm SURE that I can beat any chick in the room and get her boyfriend too.
And on top of that, I'm actually a good person and I look for the good in people. I think if you get that self-esteem up, you'll find a better breed of guy looking for a women with curves to spare.
2006-10-08 16:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by moderncutthroat 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't want a guy that's turned off by a full figured woman. You want t a guy that looks at who you are. That's what's really important.
It also has something to do with a woman's attitude. If you're full figured, that doesn't mean you can't be sexy. If you think you're sexy, so will others.
Personally, I love tall women. Freakishly tall women.. I'm sure they sit around crying because all the men are afraid of them too. I love 'em.
The point is: There's someone out there for everyone, no matter what size they are.
2006-10-08 17:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean "full figure" as an euphemism for "fat"? While it may be true that some people are genetically larger than others, being overweight is not healthy and often demonstrates a lack of self-care and self-esteem, unhealthy eating habits and generally unhealthy lifestyle. I will not believe someone telling me that they are overweight even if they follow a balanced diet and regular exercise. It has nothing to do with being perfect. "Mens sana in corpore sano", a healthy mind in a healthy body, is not an empty saying. And it goes both ways too, not just for women...So, get off the couch, pour the can of coke down the drain, throw the full bag of chips in the garbage, get a bottle of water and move your butt on the treadmill...
2006-10-08 17:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Phil 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys do. If you except guys for better or worse no matter what then you don't have much self respect for yourself. For every guy out there who likes thin women there is one who likes full figured gals. If you're a full figured gal then maybe you need to present yourself differently, with more confidence and pride. Maybe then men will start treating you with the respect you deserve.
2006-10-08 17:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sandi B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's thankfully not true on either count. I am a curvaceous girl and though I workout, etc, I am overweight and will never be thin. I have had tons of romance in my life and I am involved with a man I think is beyond terrific. Granted, most men like a girl built like a 10 year old boy, but the men who prefer some curves are absolutely out there...and you do not have to accept a man who looks any old way. I don't want a guy with facial hair, or tattoos, or who is flabby. There are all kinds of people out there, with all kinds of preferences, so don't sell yourself short by playing into that.
2006-10-08 16:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys get turned off by full-figured woman.....but maybe for some its, because they may have small male "members" and objects look bigger next to smaller bodies and it makes them feel better...lol No really there are men that like full figured women that take care of themselves and are attractive inside and out. Just keep looking and never settle for less than you deserve !!!
2006-10-08 16:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by drtcc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are insecure and they are more worried about how it is going to make them look being with a full-figured woman and some women thin or full-figured are insecure themselves and men pick up on that quick. All women have to love themselves and accept themselves no matter how they look. When you show a man you love yourself and you take care of yourself and you are secure with your body type he will see that and a secure man will go for that woman no matter what size she is.
2006-10-08 17:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay... first of all, stop generalizing. Not all guys are turned off by full figured women. Culturally, both men and women are programmed to find thin sexy. The images are everywhere. Be that as it may, the world is full of heavy people and many of them are coupled off. The sad truth is that a heavier person may have to look a little harder to find someone of quality who isn't shallow about looks and body type.
Second, you are right...it is unfair that women have to live up to impossible standards of beauty and men get away with being fat. That is how our society works. Mostly it is because women trade on their looks, making them sex objects to men. Alternatively, men trade on their success, power and wealth, making them success objects for women. Right or wrong, It is how it is.
2006-10-08 16:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, actually all men do not. I am "larger", but my boyfriend likes me because in his eyes I am hot. He loves my personality, humor, intelligence, eyes, the way I treat others, my heart, and who I am. He says I am soft and silky feeling and loves to hold me. It is society's portrayal of the image that is sexy as a toothpick, no boobs, model, with a great wardrobe. Truly, that is what .001% of the entire population if that much??? Guys that expect perfection are usually the ones with their own boatload of issues they need to deal with. I have been attracted and even in relationships with men that eventually bring up weight/image and the irony is the very thing that is being said to me needed to be done by the speaker. If someone expects you to be someone other than yourself they are not healthy for your life. I have yet to meet a perfect fat, fluffy, plump, slender, thin, or skinny person. Just a lot of different and interesting individuals with a lot to offer others.
2006-10-08 17:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by MimGregg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am here to tell you that not all men feel that way. I met a wonderful man who did not let my size get in the way of a beautiful relationship. He was more interested in the woman inside the skin. We are soul mates. We understand each other better than most couples, and are very happy. He is much taller than I am, but I weight more than he does. We may make an unusual couple, but we love each other so much that we don't care.
2006-10-08 16:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋