My BF told me that he is cool about me going on dates with other men in the name of meeting more people & boardening my point of view. He said that it is fine even if he goes on dates with other gals. So long as we draw the line, to him its all just about meeting people.
I actually feel like doing it just to see how well he can take it....
2006-10-08 16:49:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is of course a tool to allow him to have sex with other women under the guise of being on "dates" with them.
2006-10-08 16:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by The Lobe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the dates meant going out with at least 2 or more people, I guess thats fine. If it's a one-to-one basis, I think it's not normal. Going for a date, without the intention of being in a relationship doesn't really make sense. You also need to talk this out with your bf. Since he is ok with you going for other dates and likewise he doing it himself, you need to tell him if you are comfortable with that.
2006-10-09 03:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by axix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your boyfriend have passed the phase of searching for the 'right one', either one of you should not be going on dates. You could still meet friends and broaden your horizon even when you are married but that doesnt mean you are dating those friends in romance.
I think he is just trying to give you the freedom of doing this so that he in turn could meet new girls and flirt around.
Please re-consider this relationship.
2006-10-09 00:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by smile_: ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its totally alright.
I'm not a controlling boyfriend myself and whenever I'm with a girl they are free to go on dates with other people. I do this because I have confidence in myself. Confidence that I give my girl everything that she needs and more. She would go on dates with other people knowing what she has already and compare.
If she does find a better man than me, she deserves him and we're not meant to be together. The key is to have an open communication line. Sometimes by having her go out with other people it would help me grow as a person when she would say what she likes/dislikes about the other person.
Im also a firm believer in the saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"
2006-10-08 23:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by gilafro 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your boyfriend is hoping you'll meet someone else that you like so it won't be as hard as it could be to break up with you. BF's don't encourage their GF's to go dating with other men. Break up with him and let him off the hook, he doesn't love you. Who's bright idea was this? Maybe it's him that wants to meet someone else and then tell you, "what did you expect"? Maybe he's just looking to see if you'll do it and if you are trustworthy.
2006-10-08 23:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Cinderella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite obvious that your boyfriend is not anxious to become committed to you or anyone else at this time. I think you should see others on dates too. You might meet someone who would be more committed to you than he is as well as broadening your point of view. Try it. Best wishes.
2006-10-08 23:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are other ways to meet new people with out having to date them. When you open up the door to dating new people you allow them to develop feelings for you. It is unfair to yourself and to the person you are experidating to "try" to start something new if you aren't really finished with your old relationship. I would think about if you really want to be with your man and if you do why he would let another man have you.
2006-10-08 23:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Li Li 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he just wants to have other relationships and keep you too. This to me is what is called a casual relationship. There doesn't appear to be any real commitment on his part. No guy wants his girl seeing other guys in any way shape or form. He's just put a new spin on cheating. Drop him and move on. I hope you realize you deserve to be treated better.
2006-10-08 23:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by softlyinspired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are two ways i can see this, he's okay with it because he has something on the side and this will make it okay. or he doesn't really want this to happen. either way he may not know exactly what he will feel when you do go out on a date with another guy. i doubt he'll like it to much after awhile.
2006-10-08 23:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is looking to date other people and if he wants to do that, then he should not be dating you!
2006-10-08 23:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋