everytime i think i found the right person thay hurt me in some way
should i just give up or is love really worth all these heart ake
2006-10-08 16:40:08 · 22 answers · asked by blah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hope it's worth the heartache because I've had similar problems.
2006-10-08 16:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on other stuff. If you're desperately looking for love, and you're wanting to know if someone is "the right one", you're almost killing a relationship before it even gets a chance to start.
Love is awesome, but if it's love, it means that you care more than you can imagine about another person. Look at yourself. If you can see your own flaws, try to remember that the other person you love is going to have flaws as well.
I don't think love is supposed to hurt all the time, but it's not supposed to feel all warm and fuzzy all the time. It's more than emotion. It requires time, work, growth, talking, mistakes, forgiveness. There are days it feels like romance, days it feels like business, and days it feels like pure hell. If you truly love someone, you don't let the fact that you have a few bad days (or weeks or even months) cause you to think it's not love anymore.
With all that said, I can say that I can't think of anyone who has given up on love who is truly happy. I also know that if you aren't feeling any pain ever, you don't care enough about the person to actually call it love.
No one can tell if it's worth it or not, because no one's experiences are the same as yours. I'm of the opinion, though, that even with pain, life without love is worthless.
But, yeah, for now, if you feel jaded and really wonder if love's worth it, go slow. Maybe at the moment, you're not actually ready for love, and there's not a thing in the world wrong with that.
2006-10-08 17:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up, just stop looking. I stopped believing in love after my last relationship. He treated me horribly, piling on the emotional abuse. But, once I decided I was not going to date again for a very long time because it just wasn't worth it, my fiance walked in to that part of my life.
Love will find you in an unexpected place at an unexpected time. Just don't stop believing in it. It hurt me a lot when I stopped, and it was so wonderful to start again. I don't want anyone else to feel that pain.
2006-10-08 16:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hay dude, trust me don't ever turn your back on love.
I'm 23 most of my close friends are married or has been dating the same person for a long time. So I felt prety crap every time I realize that I'm the only single one in the group.
But a view months back I met the most amazing girl in the world.
Don't know if she is the one ( don't realy believe in that kind of thing) But she makes me feel more alive then I ever where.
Just hold on and if you meet that person, don't just sit there go for it.
2006-10-08 16:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jack s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never give up on LOVE!!! Sure you may go through some bad relationships, but when U find that person that just takes your breath away you will see that LOVE is so worth dying 4!!! I know its what keeps me alive!!!
2006-10-08 16:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by Christopher w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a very strange, insane person once told me if you give up on love, you give up on life all together.
im sorry you've been hurt, and im sorry that your heart aches...but the person who shouldn't be sorry is your heart. you can't give up on love no matter what. no matter how much you want to cry, or scream, or punch someone. for every single person that hurts you, your getting closer and closer to the one person you'll soon find that won't hurt you...that won't make your heart ache...and that might be your one true love.
hang in there. there are over 200000000000000000 people in the world...there's got to be someone out there that you'll find...or that'll find you.
good luck. hope i helped.
2006-10-08 16:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't give up....there is someone for everyone. You just got to be patient. Most of the time, when I'm busy and I"m not really thinking about a relationship or even just dating for the heck of it, that's when that special someone comes. So, get busy and focus on your for now. She's coming. I hope this helps
2006-10-08 16:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER give up on love.... each person that has passed thru your life, no matter the pain, has taught you something valuable... think of the good that came out of it and not the bad... take each lesson learned and apply to the next relationship... some day the PERFECT ONE will walk into your life and just think of all the good stuff YOU will bring into her life....... God bless
2006-10-08 16:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a somebody for everyone....it just takes forever to find that person...the best thing for you to do, is not give up totally on love....but you need to give up when it comes to constantly looking for that right person! live your life, day to day, school, work, family, the usual daily routine,,,,and one day that special someone will pop into your life like a dream come true...the best things in life take a long time to find sometimes....but they always come around...in the meantime, enjoy being young and dont stress yourself over falling in love....you'll break hearts and get your heart broken many many times in life...its just the way it is....
good luck to you! and please dont worry about it, i really thought it would NEVER happen to me, and now my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years...DONT WORRY! if it could happen to MEEEEE it can happen to anyone, anywhere....
2006-10-08 16:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by SassyGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Na man, just relax don't rush into things take some time out for yourself for a bit. Then try and find your love out there. There should be someone out there thats perfect for you just haven't found it yet. It'll take some time and work. Relax.
2006-10-08 16:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋