My boyfriend and I got back together in May after a bad break up. How can he show me that he is dedicated.?

Question

We broke up after he got back from Iraq, because he had promised a girl that he had strong feelings for ever since high school that if she ever wanted to give them a chance he would drop anything to be with her. Take in mind that he is now 23. So in turn he broke up with me to be with her. During that relationship he moved in with her and proposed to her. That was a Five month relationship. He and I got back together after many discussions and talks with him explaining why he did what he did and trying to get my trust back. He tells me everyday now that he cares about me a lot and always tells me he loves me. He goes out of his way to make me happy and is very mindful of my feelings toward what he does. He has done everything possible to regain himself and my trust, but how can he show me that he is dedicated to our relationship and making it work no matter what may come? How can he show me that he would not just drop what we have worked for at the drop of a dime?

Answer 1

it sounds and it looks that you want a guarantee. do write your own conditions on a piece of paper and have him sign it. for more official status have the signature approved by a notary. that is the half joke part. the serious part is "we simply do not have a guarantee on anything in life --specially on love matters. so live with it day by day, month to month --and see and feel how it goes. as the Chinese say -- 1000 miles route begins by taking a first step -- the rest is details. good luck to both.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

He can't. There is nothing he can do for you that will make you feel better. You have to decide whether or not you are ready to give that much of yourself to him again. If this will be something that will cross your mind and bring up when he comes home late or stays out too long with friends, then save yourself and him the drama. My grandmother told me to never date the same man twice. If what he did the first time is not the same reason for the next break-up, it will play a strong second. Is there a pattern? How long were you two together before the break-up. You are in the honeymoon period full of I love you and flowers. Drop that zero, get yourself a hero.

Answer 4

I'm sorry, but I wouldn't have gotten back together with him. There really is no way you can be sure that this won't happen again, especially if she decides that she is going to give him another chance. "Once a cheater, always a cheater" applies here, even if he never cheated on you, because cheater could be a mental thing as much as a physical thing. He was obviously thinking of her while you two were together the first time. Who is he thinking of now?

I say dump him and find someone new for yourself. You seem ready for a real commitment, and I'm not sure you're going to get it from him. Good luck!

Answer 5

The question is "Will you ever trust him again?" Because the problem is not if he is willing to show you how he feels or if he thinks you are the one now. The problem here is if you are willing to live with it. I mean, if you can't forget what he did, then maybe you shouldn't still be with him, because it'll drive you crazy whenever he gets a phone call or a message, you will think there's somebody else (natural reaction) and you won't be happy. Think about it. He did it once, he may do it again.

Answer 6

First of all, let actions always speak louder than words. You are second best dear and you should let him know that no one can love him like you do but don't be a doormat. If he goes he goes and I would ignore anything he says and pay attention to what he does. Make his nest cozy and love him but if he so much as twitches the wrong way let him go. Don't hold it over his head. Men can make stupid decisions sometimes. One is okay but if he thinks he has a doormat waiting for him with some words----forget it!

Answer 7

there's no way to be sure that he won't do that again. He obviously didn't care enough about you the first time. It takes a long time to rebuild trust, and it sounds like he burned you pretty bad. you all ready put yourself through all that hurt and anguish when the girl wanted to get back together the first time..what happens when she wants to get back together AGAIN? You'll know when you can trust him again, because you won't have to ask these questions you are asking anymore. I would seriously reconsider the situation. You are worth so much more than that.

Answer 8

If you don't know what he can do to show that he is dedicated, then how can we help? Do you really want to guy? Do you think you are better off with him? or with out him? If you wish to make a go of it then get married, at least you get half his stuff if he screws up. That could be enough incentive for him to walk the straight and narrow. But he should do things for you to show that you were not second choice.

Answer 9

If you do not desire to lose her then do not get a divorce together with her. Who's going to be her shoulder to cry on whilst you depart? The different man is. The man who's "only a pal". If you're taking a holiday then he's going to almost definitely grow to be greater than only a pal. But at the different finish if thegf relatively adored you she will have to now not refuse to quit seeing him. But alot of ladies do not love to be instructed what to do. Your now not her father, you get extra appreciate whilst you provide it. Don't make the sort of bid deal out of the lunch dates and it'll quit being an drawback. Just allow your gf realize you suppose find it irresistible's disrespectful to maintain to look this different man whilst she is aware of that he likes her and he will have to realize that she is with you. OR flip it round and begin having your possess lunch dates...I'm definite she'd love that.

Answer 10

He cant, thats why its so hard for a guy, they do all they can, but the girl just wants something else to prove that they are dedicated, but we often cannot possibly think of anything that would actually be able to show the love that we are feeling right at that moment.