i've often just told guys that i had a bf or my bf and i just brokeup in order to basically say no, i don't wanna be with you. then they just keep asking me over and over again to go with them, and i have to keep repeating myself. but i'm sick and tired of lying. my friends tell me that i'm just being to nice, but i just don't wanna hurt anyone's feelings, especially when they really like me. i also tell them that we can just be friends, but i heard that guys don't like to be told that. So i want to be honest, but i don't want to hurt him either, how do i do that?
2006-10-08 16:35:36 · 8 answers · asked by I ♥ Jesus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a hard question, but then again not so hard. The important thing is that you were honest. I had the same problem with this ex of mine, I finally gave him a chance thinking that maybe I should be open minded and the dude raped me and pretended that nothing happened. But, I learned after that your feeling of not being interested in that person is your natural instincts telling you that he's not the one to share your life with and to share an experience with. But, if that same guy keeps asking the same question you've already answered, dude is just dumb and he definitely don't need your attention. Be firm and always trust your instinct. I hope this helps
2006-10-08 16:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to be honest and not lead anyone on. Be a woman and say " NO" you can't worry about other people's feeling to a certain degree.
A person can't help who they like or don't and the party on the other end can't expect the same.
I say always be honest don't beat around the bush on any situation. You may run into a guy who doesn't care about the excuses you are giving and then what will you do.
You can be nice and truthful at the same time. Just be by honest up front.
Just by saying: I am sorry but I am not interested.
2006-10-08 16:41:22 · answer #2 · answered by sweetcincylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can not hold yourself responsible for the feelings of others. As long as you are upright and honest nobody can really hold that against you. I know that is a tough thing to do but you need to make that a habbit or you will end up like me, 44 and still having the problems you are. Others have told me what I just told you but it was to late for me. Hopefull it is not to late for you.
2006-10-08 16:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by todd_schild 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about yourself, your in the situation where your the one who's feeling are hurt, tell them the truth that your simply not ready and call it quits, believe me that's the best way. Don't be a people pleaser. Think about your feeling! When you love yourself a right man will come along.
2006-10-08 16:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them you have an image of who you want to be with long term and it isn't them. You respect them for friendship but until you find a balance between, school, career, etc, that aspect of your social life is for later.
2006-10-08 16:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest.
Tell the how you feel about them.
You could say that you will never see him as anything other than a friend.
He can’t rebut this.
I wish you luck!
2006-10-08 16:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"You're a great guy, and I sure hope you find someone soon who can really be a great partner for you. I'm not the one, but you'll find her soon. Thanks for taking the time to let me in on your ideas for a great love life. I know she'll like to hear all about it from you. Take care. Buh bye."
2006-10-08 16:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by Stuart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must be honest that s it!
2006-10-08 16:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by florencia s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋