Ok ladies i got a question. why is it everytime im interested in a girl im told to start off as friends but then its like not even a day after im interested in the girl and i start to try hookin up shes already lost interest in me and is on to another guy. its so discouraging sometimes i just wanna give up trying. i try being patient and starting out as friends but somehow i always miss my chance to be more than a friend. what should i do? any advice is greatly appreciated.
2006-10-08 16:35:18 · 19 answers · asked by zorlandkeirwulf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont start off being friends. Who told you to do that anyway? Ask them out on a real date and if they like you in that way they will say yes. You dont have to be their friend first. Just go for it, if you are not getting anywhere with the way you are doing it now you arent going to lose anything by being a bit more bolder!
2006-10-08 16:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kellie W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are trying to "hook up" within a day then you are not being a friend. Try actually being her friend, and demonstrate the good qualities you have. After a while she will either fall or not, and if nothing else you have someone you can talk to and possibly get advice from for dating, Good luck!
2006-10-08 23:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by MimGregg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason, girls are REALLY confused about what we want. Yes, girls do want a boyfriend who is also a friend, but for some reason, we also like the mystery and intrigue of the guy who is not the friend. I'm in my mid-twenties, and I'm married, and he was a great friend before we dated and married, but that was only after I was drawn to the more mysterious guys.
Unfortunately, even though I am a girl, I don't understand why we do the things we do. :-)
2006-10-08 23:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into trying to hook up with a girl.If you do,she'll instantly back off.Girls wanna get to know you well before trying to start a relationship.It does take time,and don't let anyone tell you different.Girls like to get to know a guy before trying to committ.Just go with the flow,get to know a girl,and BE PATIENT.I know you said you tried being patient,but nothing worked.So,what you're gonna have to do,is be polite as possible and smile at her.And don't jump to dating.
2006-10-08 23:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't go into a friendship thinking, "I want to hook up." Girls can sense that, and that will make them lose interest. Go into any relationship thinking, "This person is interesting. I want to spend time with them."
Also, when you realize that this friend is someone who you want to be more than friends with, ease into that idea unless you are pretty darn sure the feeling is mutual. My fiance and I were friends for 2 years before we started dating, and it took him 6 months for me to finally get comfortable with the idea of dating after it entered his mind to want that. Do not ask her out straight out or try to shove your tongue down her throat :-) Just try to spend more time alone with her, and be nicer and funnier than ever before!
2006-10-08 23:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that she's off to another guy cuz you tried to hook up b4 trying to get to know her. sometimes "being friends1st" means she wants to get to know you better. other times she's not interested in you romantically (or sexually). in that case, you need to pay attention to body language & other clues so that in the future you can choose girls that may be interested in you as more than a friend.
2006-10-08 23:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah in not a girl so what dont start off as her friend cause she'll only think of u as one and u wont get any. let her know that u are interested early on...if shes not move on
2006-10-08 23:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by akihabro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they tell you they wanna be friends first, that mean they are not interested in you in the first place. you need to find a girl who wants to hook up with you from the start.
2006-10-08 23:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by answerer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when a girl doesnt wanna see u down or blue because of being rejected as she doesnt wanna be ur gf, she will ask u to be her friend in the first place until no limit time u'll be still her friend only.
"There is a time for you to have ur truly love gf"..wait..
2006-10-09 00:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by Aii29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok dear, when a girl says she wants to start as "friends" that usually means that shes not even intersted in nothing more than friendship. she is just trying to not hurt your feelings
2006-10-08 23:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by c_towngrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋