i am intimate with a person who i work with and we are not suppose to be involved (one of the rules at my job). We have been seeing each other on and off for about four years now, i care about him a lot, but i realize that he is not willing to persue this. i have even told him that i would quit and be with him...he never gives me an answer. when he wants to see me, i see him and now at times i don't want to be intimate with him...am i crazy or what??
2006-10-08 16:28:06 · 9 answers · asked by girly3256 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So basically you're nothing but a bootie call. If you can live with that then keep seeing him for sex. If you want more then stop seeing him and pursue someone you have a chance at having a future with. This all comes down to what you want. There is nothing wrong with meaningless sex if that is what you are both agreeing to. But if you feel the need for more than don't settle for anything less. Decide what YOU want and need and move forward. I don't see a future with this guy. He is content on having you just for sex. If he wanted more he would have said as much by now. I think it is time to move on...if that is what you want.
2006-10-08 16:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to popular belief, rules are sometimes meant to be broken...such as the dont date people you work with rule...everyone does it and sometimes you find out the hard way that the break up sucks worse when it is in your office. But, in your situation I would say that it is definately over before it starts. In no way shape or form should you drop your job because of him, you will regret that later and blame him if things don't work out between you. Also, this guy is NOT willing to pursue anything further than what is going on now...but why would he...it is like the saying goes "why buy the cow when you are getting the milk for free." Anyway, girl, I think that you need to take a step back from this one and find someone a little more into a relationship instead of a secret fling...aren't you getting tired of being a secret?
2006-10-08 16:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by Natty137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not crazy....your heart and mind is finally telling you what's up and is trying to give you a solution. If you don't want to be intimate w/ him at times now, you maybe actually starting to think that this guy isn't for me. I would get with him and ask him do he wants to go further with the relationship or not. But, always keep your options open. If he doesn't want to pursue, then it's his lost and your true soulmate's gain.
2006-10-08 16:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted to have a relationship with you, he would have done so - it has been FOUR years. Would a man that cares about you treat you like this? He sees you only when it is convenient to him, and he has sex with you, but wont even talk to you about the situation. There are men out there who would not do this to you. Here are some of the great things you could be experiencing with someone else: Open communication, he will inconvenience his schedule to make you happy, and you won't have to keep your relationship with him a secret. These are things that you deserve, things that you can only have with someone else!! Kick this creep to the curb, and move on!!
2006-10-08 16:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by Memphis qt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not see yourself in relationship with this person, get rid of them. Have a little self respect, you can do it. What if a good guy, a guy who is there when you need/want him, the guy for you shows up and you're still wasting time on this slimebag loser?
2006-10-08 17:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by Chossica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thoes are stupid rules.No one should tell you who you can love. You should just be intimate. You can't deny the heart. Do what you feel is right.
2006-10-08 16:32:34 · answer #6 · answered by jmt4127 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You are crazy. Find another job and quit this one. It isn't worth it. You will never find another person in your life until you get rid of this parasite.
2006-10-08 16:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be intimate with that person, show respect for yourself, and move on with your life, he's not worth it. He's obviously showed you where you place is with him, so don't stoop low to his level!
2006-10-08 16:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by Muggle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're just a big use
2006-10-08 16:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋