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Question

please no smart a$$ comments. what would you say to a 20 year old and 45 year old getting married. Is it a mistake waiting to happen or is age not an issue. Thank you for responding.

Answer 1

I don't weigh in age when dating, unless you're under 18, then that's wrong, but there is nothing wrong with dating/marrying some one that is a lot older than you. As long as you both love each other, and are happy and comfortable with each others company, then why not. You may even have similiar interests too.

Answer 2

It's a stretch, it's a big stretch. A lot of people who do this have problems, the maturity difference really gets in the way most of the time. i wouldn't say age is a deciding factor in whether or not to marry someone. Look at the relationship, how long has it been going on? Can the twenty year old deal with the fact that their spouse may die in twenty years leaving them twenty more years of sadness? What is the relationship based on? What are your reasons to want to marry? How well do you get along now? Do you both want kids? Is this possible? If you have been dating a while and you know each others heart and souls, and the maturity and age difference has not been an issue I say go for it as long as you have thought out everything and make sure this is the person you want to spend the rest of your days with. No one can tell you if it's a good idea or not because we do not know the circumstances of the relationship. If no problems have come thus far I say go for it just think hard first. Divorce really sucks!!! Good Luck

Answer 3

I will guess you are the 20yr.old. O.K.>>>>Here goes<<<<< I think if you are looking for a SugarDaddy, girl go for it. Now the real problem is why does a man his age want to marry you? Well it has come to my attention it is usually a insecurity issue,on his part. You will wind up as his "window dressing" and when the new wears off that label then you will be treated like his daughter.Oh,it will be a gradual change,and then become a full blown problem.I also can promise you that even in a new Church, to relocate,everone will think he is your Dad. You are thinking...not me that will never be.Don't bet a lot of money on that ,I sure hate to see a person loose money. Now as how to look at this another way,trade ages {really} for a little while ,he is 20 and you are 45.Now visualize you two are out to lunch or Church...where ever...look at people and see how they look back! You are now saying...that's not the same.>>>> OH YES it is. And then you will think It will be different with us...Not so again. Why don't you two live together for ONE year then decide to get married. I'm sure you do not care what other people think ,sure YOU do ,that's why you want conformation on what you already know to be the truth. Good Luck you will need it. squirlyShirley1

Answer 4

I am a married 23 year old woman and have been married for a year. I have the upmost faith that our marriage will survive, but I know that marriage these days are a gamble. I think no matter the age, if you love eachother and want to make that commitment to eachother, do it. There is no guarantee that two 40 year olds would last together, age makes no difference. The only thing I can say is if the 20 and 45 year old want different things, it could create problems, but if both want to get married and are on the same page with things, then what would the problem be? Age doesn't make you any more ready for marriage!

Answer 5

usually age ain't nothin but a number, but sometimes if the age difference is TOO great (as in your case, the 45 year old is old enough to be a PARENT of the 20 year old), the couple may have less in common, like growing up in different time periods. plus you should think about if you are "really" in love or is there something else that may have you wanting to get married. i think marriage is great, and if you love each other that's awesome, but one thing that concerns me a little is one person is only 20. i am 20 years old myself, and i think that there is so much out there right now that i haven't discovered, and that i need to discover MYSELF. i don't think it's a good time to get married and settle down. i want to enjoy my young life, and be young and have fun and experience different things (and people) while i can. you only live once... if anything, wait 5 years.... if you're still in love and want to get married then go for it.

Answer 6

Hmmm...20 might be a bit young for most people, but then, I don't think that age is an issue. I was in my 40s when I got married with my ex-wife who was 20 at the time...Many things in the relationship were great, including sex, but in the end it did not work for us, but not at all because of our age difference, although friends and family are always quick to point out to me that it was because of it. I know many 20-25 year old girls who are as mature as older ones, and it all depends on what connects you to her.

Answer 7

omg im not sure if im jealous or offended,lol love is love so it might work im sure there will be a lot of woman telling you how gross that is but ****'em if you really love each other then i guess its ok,but when the age difference is that big there is a maturity level that is going to be no existant from her and may annoy the crap out of you,even if shes and "old" 20 shes still only 20. and when shes your age youll be dead so as far as having kids go do you want to leave her as a widowed mother,maybe she says she doesnt want kids now,but most likely she will down the road maybe when shes mature enough say at 26 thatll make you 51 by the time your kid is going to high school youll be 66 so do you really want to do this?

Answer 8

People make it work all of the time. I personally wouldn't want to marry someone who I had a 25 yr old age difference from because I doubt that there would be much in common. But I guess that love has no bounds and we can't choose who we fall in love with so if you really love this other person and they love you, you will find a way to make it work.

Answer 9

Personally I see no problem with it as long as the two of you have been together for at least a few years, but I say that about any couple thinking of getting married. I've known many couples who had a huge age difference, even 25 years like you guys, and they were together about 25 years. :)

Answer 10

The answer really depends on the 20 y.o's level of maturity. If you are leaving the nest to marry, it may not be a good match. He may become a substitue parent. If you have lived on your own for a period of time (i.e. paying your own bills) without assistance, then the marriage has a good chance. Know your legal rights (property, children, etc.) before, during and after the marriage BEFORE you marry.