They have 16 children from ages 2 to 17. They seem to have an amazing life, their mom is awesome and everyone is happy...I watche dthis show a while back and it really inspired me to have more than one kid. The thing is I think my man wants more kids for the worng reasons, like being able to have sex without condoms (yes Im serious) I think he is way to immature to be a father to more than one kid. About 9 months of the year in total he is not home, away at work.
I dont know, what do you think?
And how many kids do you have? Are you happy or do you wish your life was different?
2006-10-08 16:23:57 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't think so at all. I have 8 children right now ages 12 to 3 months and we love it. Everything can get a little chaotic at times but we wouldn't change it at all. My husband loves it too. He has actually brought up the idea of having another one. I will tell you people are RUDE!!!! I have others commenting about our choices from the grocery store to a recent funeral. People I have never met. So you need to be strong in your convictions and that doesn't mean your religion just believe what you are doing is right. My children do help out we are a team but they adore the family and regually ask me if we can have more. You don't have to be rich or on welfare either, it just takes careful planning and you will be fine. good luck in your decision.
Shelly
2006-10-11 15:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by Shelly 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i too watched that show or one like it. the family had a house full didnt use electricity, and grew what they could in gardens not to mention make there own clothes. i am due with my 5th child my husband has a son from previouse so that makes 6 kids. i am also the oldest of 10 so i know what its like to come from a big family. my husband drives semi truck so he to is not home often. having a big family is nice always some one there but its also a struggle and this teaches kids that in life theres sacrifices and that the most important thing is family and love. the only things i wish was different is that i had more money to be able to support my family with out struggle some times. its hard for me to tell my kids some times sorry hunny not this time momma doesnt have the money for that. and that my husband was home to help more often other than that i probably wouldnt change anything. this is also my last baby as a human being i have a tolerance level and well 5 is a lot not to mention when theres 6 as im a stay at home mom mostly alone caring for my family.
2006-10-09 01:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by evilella 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think its a good idea to have that many kids. They all seemed happy, but way to happy if you know what I mean. I felt like they were putting on a really great front for TV, and if not, then its abnormal to be that happy. I think the kids are missing out on true parenting, they have a buddy system, which in my opinion costs the older kids their childhood because they have to practically raise their siblings. I hate to see that one girl who has to do laundry all day long. I think they are to sheltered, and will have a really hard time in the real world. As far as the amount of kids you have, it should be the amount you can care for. (this applies to welfare too!) I agree your man has some issues about more kids. If he wants to have sex w/o condoms, get birth control, not 16 kids! I don't have any kids yet, but would prefer not to have any more than 2....Don't think I could handle and financially support much more than that!
2006-10-09 10:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by ASH 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i believe that the duggar family goes to church so they believe in the saying in the bible that goes like this "Go forth and multiply" which everyone knows that means to have more than one kid.
I have one child. He is 5 years old. I am thinking about having another one before i turn 30 (I'm 27).. I am happy with my life now with my husband and our son. If for some reason i can't have another kid then it won't devastate me.
If that means i will only have my son then it must mean that i was only meant to have one kid.
I couldn't imagine having that many kids though.... But my papa and mama have the duggar family beat-they had 21 kids... Both my grandparents are dead now but i always wondered why they had that many kids. 21 my gosh that was alot.
I don't wish my life to be different at all.
2006-10-09 01:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Duggars are able to support their family on their own. I belive that the support system they have built into their family is very important. I hope you would be able to follow their example all the way through. With your husband gone all the time I believe that this would be something you really need to think about, and consider how much help you would need compared to how much help you have. My husband also works on the road for 10 months out of the year so I know how tough it can get at times. I am happy with the one we have. I feel that with the way his father works I have to work that much harder for him to feel like he still has a 'real' family. I belive if we were to have more I would feel very stressed about the whole situation-him gone on the road seeing things, doing things with out us, etc.--me home with little ones running around to the doctors, school projects, etc.-its just something that needs serious thought. I wish you the best of luck in your decision.
2006-10-08 23:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by spacecase 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If ur nt sure that your guy is mature enough to have more kids you may want to rethink your decision, unless you plan to hv these kids with someone else. But I think having a lot of kids is great as long as you are able to provide for them and give each and everyone the time and love they so much need and deserve. I only have one and do not want anymore because I had a really bad pregnancy the first time around. But good luck to u.
2006-10-08 23:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by Teapot23 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have 4.I am happy.It's a blessing to give birth,other are not able to conceive.No I don't wish my life could be different.The only way I will say go have a large family :1.You and your husband have to agree and you need his support.It would not be easy because you will be dealing with different type of personality.There no to child the save.2.Can you support a large family financially.Without it being a strand on you and your spouse relationship.It made look easy on tv but it hard work.3.If you feel your husband not ready don't do it.It take both parent to raise there family.I am glad you are thinking this through some people don't do that and they regret there move they made.
2006-10-08 23:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by 40something 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok the Duggers are very rare. These kids are very sheltered. Home schooled, no internet, no television, no typical American kid environment. Which is fine, there are others like that and its not bad or anything.
So to control that many kids and function like they do you have to be on constant schedules, constantly on top of the situation, make the older kids help constantly and have extreme discipline. If you have all these abilities good for you, more power to you.
As for me, three is good and plenty. I think with 16 you just don't get to bond with each like you should. They grow up very quick, and with too many, you may miss it.
2006-10-08 23:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by Thetruthbetold 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have three and they are grown
before you have a house full make sure you can care for them on your own
tv families are not showing you real life
i had the American dream, married home then children and my husband still walked out leaving me to care for our children
working and taking care of home was hard with an education and I had 3 if i had more i may have left
2006-10-08 23:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by ladyqueenbeeee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weird.
They are a rare family.
Most women's internal organs would give out by the 5th kid. and her sanity by the 6th.
In this day and age you had better get on TV to support that many kids.
2006-10-08 23:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋