Am I stupid to "expect" a car from my parents, who make 100,000 a year?

Question

Okay, I am 20 and never was purchased a car by my parents. But for some reason, I almost expect that they should or should have, because besides the fact I am responsible, don't drink at all, and have excellent grades, most kids in high school at least were bought a piece of junk that can trasport them places.

My dad recently got a better paying job, and he still won't budge. I think he views me as a greedy and materialistic pearson for asking this from him...but he just pays for my community college, big deal. I was accepted to two of the top art schools in the US, and he wouldn't dare consider paying for it! Well anyway, I have to take buses and get rides, and this is very inconvinent because I am usually late to work because the bus is always late!

I do work, but only get 8.05 an hour, and to buy anything decent I don't know how I could swing it. I have no credit and he certainly would never be a co-signer for a loan.

The bus is late, not my fault. Plus it drops me off at the opposite end of the mall from where I work, so I have to cross the entire mall, adding to the late time.

Answer 1

I would have to side with your parents. You sound like you've not learned anything about being responsible for your actions (see the bus comment). If you're really concerned about the lack of a vehicle, you'll find a way to better your situation and earn it.

Answer 2

I wouldn't say you're stupid, but perhaps a little selfish.

Your parent's don't "owe" you a car. The fact that they make 100,000 doesn't mean that they should spend a chunk of that money buying you a car when you're already a legal adult.

Being responsible, getting good grades, and not being a drinker (illegally, since you're not 21).... those are hardly things to brag about. They are things you should be doing without expecting a vehicular reward, just because they're the right thing to do.

Your community college is no loose change, you know. Plenty of parents don't even pay for college for their kids. Why would a parent who isn't appreciated for paying for their kid's education (so the kid can make a good living) want to pay for a car for them?

From what you've said, I can kind of see why your parents would see you as greedy and/or materialistic.

Have you tried actually asking your dad if he'll co-sign? Did he specifically say he wouldn't pay for your schooling?

I think it's about time you stop expecting your parents to give you a car. If they didn't a few years ago, when you were still a minor and they were responsible for paying for your expenses, they're not going to do it now.

You don't say whether you pay your living expenses, but with 8 dollars an hour, and 20 hours (a typical part-time job) a week, your estimated earnings would be 160 a week, minus taxes. That's more than enough to cover a moderate car payment.

Answer 3

I know how you feel not having your own car really makes living hard. Not to mention you feel like such a poor sap sitting on the corner waiting for the bus watching all these 16 year old kids that are not responsible driving around in new cars!! But on the other had having something haded to you isn't right either. Try talking to your dad and see if he will help you out with co signing or something else. Ask him what the reason for the brush off. You might be caught of guard by the reasons. My dad wouldn't do it for me either and I'm happy he didn't. I have had to work for things(hard). But it has made me a better person for it not to mention when the really hard stuff came around i could deal with it. Parents have a way of teaching us stuff in the weirdest ways GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 4

Look Kiddo, you don't really want everything handed to you on a silver platter do you? I am 37 yrs old with 3 kids and 2 of them are of legal driving age and they STILL walk and ride with friends and ride the school bus. As a matter of fact... I STILL walk and bum rides.
My mom and daddy couldn't afford to buy me a car nor would they co-sign either.... for good reasons. They wanted me to make my own way in this world... realizing my parents weren't there for my own financial needs, they were there for me in so many other ways.
You are 20 yrs old, living at home i assume, eating your parents' food, using their utilities, using their phone, and also they are paying for your school? What more do you want from them?
Make a budget and stick by it.....you will eventually save enough for your own car. Also... until then, make a schedule of the buses and take an earlier one so you can have time to get there. Hell, getting to work early is alot better than being fired because you are late too much.
Good luck and hope to see you driving your own car someday, one that you bought and paid for ALL BY YOURSELF! You can do it!!

Answer 5

You should never depend on anyone to get things for you. There is no law that says that your parents are responsible for buying you a car or sending you to college. I think that you need to learn how to ask co workers for rides or work something else out. It is very selfish of you to think that your parents should spend their money on you. If you want to be totally honest here...you are 20 years old...2 years ago was the expiration date on what your parents had to buy for you. From here on out ...you are on your own... I understand that it is hard to get things now a days ...I am 24...I've been there, but it is now time for your parents to enjoy life....they gave you everything that you needed and probably more fromt the time you were born until...well now, so suck it up and become a man. I too was accepted into one of the top art schools in the US when I was 18 and my parents would not pay for it....but you know what...I am in college...and I found a way to pay for it myself....and now that I am paying for my college....I actually show up and take pride in my work there. It is so much more rewarding when you do things on your own...and you care for them better.

Answer 6

You are being a materialistic kid. If you really want a car try to get a better line of credit. Your parents aren't there to buy you everything you want in life. You are 20 years old. I'm 30 and still don't have my own car. I'm married with 2 kids, but you don't hear me complaining. My mom and dad didn't buy me a car until I was in college and making money to pay them back for it. Be an adult and talk to them . Have a presentation of sorts.

Answer 7

I think that you should talk to your parents about helping you out if you can come up with half the money or more, would they be willing to come up with the other half, so as long as the car wasn't too expensive, and talk to them about going along with you and helping to pick out a car. And you keep all insurance paid on the car. since you''re working and all. Maybe they would help you that way if you'd be willing to meet half way.? Who knows it couldn't hurt to ask and if not,, then you'd better figure out a better way to work so you'd quit being late.

Get up earlier and catch an earlier bus to work ? You could save money and pay half for the car, that is if your' parents agree, or maybe they might be willing to fix some kinda contract and let you pay them monthly notes on the car and if you dont' pay then they repossess the car and sell it to somebody else.

there are several options,, it they dont' help,, then you are on your own! Anyway good luck with everything!

Answer 8

properly, the place have been the mothers and dads ?! the place develop into his grandmother ? It no longer "exciting" to do undesirable issues, he would have truly gotten harm. And all those persons have been in possibility ! He would have crashed into yet another automobile ! i think of he's attempting to "slot in" by potential of being undesirable. with any luck he will understand to be himself and not do undesirable issues to look cool. or in line with risk he's attempting to "galvanize" the girls, women are not going to love him if he's undesirable, he would desire to be himself and be well mannered and be a good boy and get his coaching and the girls would be throughout him. is he going to be in any difficulty ?! grounded or somthing ?! He should not be enable off the hook in basic terms because of the fact he's 7. He may be 7 yet he has a techniques of a 15 year previous. His mothers and dads would desire to disaplint him in any different case he's by no potential going to earnings and do somthing like this back. He in all risk will do somthing worse than this because of the fact he have been given plenty interest, he develop into on the information ! So now all of his friends aare going to correctly known approximately this and do undesirable stuff too.

Answer 9

UHHHHHH.....you sound completely selfish and irresponsible, and quick to make excuses for yourself. Get up earlier and get an earlier bus -- If I was your Dad and if you hadn't figured this out by now I would not only NOT buy you a car, I wouldn't want you driving on the same roads as me either. No kudos from me for not drinking -- you are under age you ding dong!!! And maybe you know what your Daddy's salary is -- but do you have any idea how much of that is actually take home pay?!? Does he feed you, buy your clothes, pay for you to go out, cover your insurance, medical and dental bills, pay the mortgage and or rent? Does he have BILLS like the rest of us? Grow up and save your own dang money to buy your own transportation you selfish tweak!! (p.s. save enough to pay for insurance, maintenance, repairs and fill it up with gas TOO!!!!!)

Answer 10

Just because your parents make good money doesn't mean they HAVE to purchase YOU a car, just because other kid's parents have purchased their kids cars doesn't mean your parents HAVE to purchase you a car. I didn't buy my daughter a car, she is almost 21 and still has no wheels, She has to rely on either me or public transportation to get to where she wants to go. I don't blame your dad for not being a co signer on a loan, he is a smart man. Suck up and deal with it...save up your money and buy a car, yourself...as well as purchasing the insurance for it to. Life is tuff suck up and deal.

Answer 11

do i think your stupid? no
do i think its right of you to expect a car? no
your parents are wanting you to be successfully like them and they probably didn't get where they are from hand outs. i don't mean to sound rude but you sound very spoiled as it is. believe it or not i am 21, married, 2 kids, own my own home, nice vehicle, a job with the school district, and a full time student. yes i grew up fast. (has its pros and cons). the reason i am where i am at in my life is b/c of my parents. my parents are not wealthy and couldn't provide all the extras in life so i had to work for them. and i know how u feel when you see all the kids getting brand new cars from their parents at school. but who cares.....when u do buy ur own car you will have that pride in knowing its yours and you worked for it. that's why you say "big deal" to ur dad paying for your school. no offense..but are you kidding me?!? u don't appreciate it one bit. work your way through college like myself and then say "big deal". bottom line your parents are trying to raise a responsible son. PS. and about your credit that is no excuse...u r 20 start building it and a word of advise once you do don't mess it up.