anger managment?

Question

i have problems dealing with anger after i reach a certain point lately i've been under a lot of stress and i've been reaching that point a lot more than i'm used to my way of dealing with the situation is to remove myself from the danger zone where i might hurt someone or myself my mother says this is immature....any comments?

Answer 1

If you're really this worried, you may want to consider anger management counseling. I have many friends who have had anger management issues--both chemically and non-chemically based--and therapy did help.

Also, you need to figure out what triggers you. If you know something is a trigger, try to distance yourself mentally or physically from the situation. The phrase "Choose your battles" has helped me a lot. I have anger issues as well, but I manage them by thinking, "Would getting angry benefit ME in any way?" It may seem selfish, but anger is a selfish emotion I suppose.

Answer 2

She needs to go the Dr. first because she may have depression, (nothing has to have happen to get it) They will put her on something that will calm her a little bit and not be so outragged. Her husband needs to take a stand as well, either he takes her to the Dr. or he and his son get out or they kick her out until she gets help. Intervention can be a strong power. Your Boyfriend should not be getting hurt and holding hands is not wrong. Just don't go no further. Be as respectful as possible but don't let her jump you either.

Answer 3

no it is not imature.. you have a problem and you are taking the correct steps to do with it.... it would be like saying an alcholic is imature because he drinks....

anger is an impulse... and it is our way of venting and relieving pressure that has build up inside...

anger is very bad when it become physically.... but sometimes it takes anger to get a point across......

Answer 4

Yes it is immature because if you are in a work setting you can't always remove yourself from a stressful situation. Not when production standards as well as accuracy standards have to be met. All you are doing is running away from your problems and not facing them. If you can't face them without getting overly angry then maybe you do need anger managment classes. You can't always run away.

Answer 5

Your right,If you are unable to deal with the issue that is confronting you,the best thing to do is to remove yourself.But you do need to realize that those issues won't just go away.Your going to have to face them sooner or later.Learn how to defeat the anger inside of you.

Answer 6

You do what you need to do to calm yourself down. Talk to your mom about what you are doing when you are calm.

Also, have you ever talked to a therapist about your anger? He/She could help you learn other strategies to help you leave "the danger zone," as you named it. Don't be scared to ask for help, you clearly don't want to explode, but it's okay not to do it all on your own.

Take care!

Answer 7

Tell a doctor, you may have some issue that could be resolved with medicine or vitamin supplement. My aunt, the sweetest person you could ever meet turned into a total B*tch when her thyroid went crazy.

Answer 8

its not really immature. somehow u didnt learn while young how to handle anger so it beagn to fester and grow inside of u. everyone gets angry but knowing how to deal with it is key. if u feel u might hurt someone or urself, it is more serious. and avoiding it won;t make it disappear. get help...talk out ur problems as much as u can. it really helps. cause i found myself allowing everything to build up and when it blew out, it wasnt preety.

Answer 9

It's not immature... everyone gets mad once in a while, but you do need lessons on how to control your temper. Otherwise things could get ugly.

Answer 10

You have to learn to control your emotions. Do not let your emotions control you. Since you don't know how to control your emotions, that means you are not mature yet. Your mother's right.