Shoud I let myself fall in love again? I have been hurt bad before. I met someone, should I give him a chance?

Answer 1

Well Green you are not alone. I think there is a time in everyone's life where we experience a bad relationship. However, what I learned after allowing myself time to get over the hurt and pain is that life goes on. Everyone has a God given right to experience the joy, peace and tranquility that comes from a loving man/woman relationship. For nearly 12 years after my divorce I found it very hard to trust women. I found myself always being on the defensive and unfairly suspecting every women I dated to be as trifling and untrustworthy as my ex-wife. Looking back on things now I realize that I perhaps ran off at least three or four candidates that could have made me a good wife. However, by me still harboring on bitterness and resentments from my past the relationships failed. At some point in your life you are going to have to trust someone. There is a chance you may get hurt again, however, there is also a chance you may find the joy and love of a life time. I have been married for four months now and I couldn't be any happier. I am going to let you in on a little secret of how I found my wife..................... Are you ready?........... I prayed. I don't know if you believe in God or not, but that is what I did. I prayed. I was all set to just adopt a son and live life as a single parent, but before I made such a major committment, I decided to pray and ask God for guidance. So I prayed and asked the Lord that if there was someone out there for me then to make it known. I prayed for someone who was kind, loving, compassionate and would appreciate me and not take me for granted. Around the same time I was planning to visit my cousin in the south. A month before my visit he informed me that he had a young lady from his church that he wanted me to meet. Believe it or not the rest is history. We have been married a little over four months now and we couldn't be happier. She is everything I ever hoped and prayed for. If God did this for me I know he will do the very same for you. All you have to do is trust in him and let go of the past. I will be praying for you. Peace and God bless.

Answer 2

I've been there done that. After I got my heart broken, I didn't want to be with anyone for a long time. I couldn't even be interested. And anytime a good guy came along, seems like I always turned them down. but out of nowhere some boy came around ,and I just knew there was something different about him. Two years later we're still together. So I guess I'm trying to tell you, only if you just know this one is different.

Answer 3

If you are already asking the question -- to us -- ignorant we are of your past and present plus ignoring all facts about your new "beau" -- let me say NO!
The question of falling in love right and left is left solely to an individual and that is definitely "You". No one can give you advice -- except your very close family entourage who know you much better than us. Hope I am clear and wish you good luck.
ps. to stress the point -- logically --if you were ready you would not have asked strangers to help you!

Answer 4

Its very comprehensible to experience this way and truly uncomplicated. its a substantial part results of falling head over heels. i don't have a magic answer i desire i did. over the years you may fall in love back who is familiar with issues ensue for a reason. to circumvent relationships because you're afraid to get harm isn't a wholesome attitude. basically shop your self busy and enjoying what you like maximum suitable plan trip journeys and so forth get out . you cant positioned your existence on carry for somebody who has rejected your friendship a number of circumstances. do no longer difficulty it happens to each physique how we handle it quite is the secret. there are different pleasing woman accessible. i replaced into basically questioning approximately each and every of the questions relating to the area corresponding to this & my very own subject /journey. its a ask your self everybody gets jointly in any respect. lots of pit falls & hurdles lol shop smiling :)

Answer 5

As fatherly advice, I have to tell you to be very careful around so-called "men." Most of them are selfish and unprincipled, and because liberalism is largely to blame, the belief is that sex as soon as possible (and before marriage) is not only "normal," but expected. There really aren't a lot worth going out with, in my opinion.

It's sad, but it's hard to know what to tell girl today. Just look at those shows on TV like "Blind Date," ect. What a sick mentality among people, and the girls are pretty clueless, too.

Answer 6

absolutely,never give up on love,take the experience of being hurt and manifest that into a learning experience,take that knowledge with you into the next and every relationship,the fact is love and the heart is always stronger than us so you will be pulled back in eventually,lol,its all about growth,never stop being able to love or stop allowing love in your life.

Answer 7

yes, give the guy a chance. you need to move on from the bad times and go on to find good ones. don't lose a guy because of the past go on into the future and try your hardest to forget the bad.

Answer 8

You cannot judge someone based on experiences with other people, that would not be fair. Your best bet is to get to know this person slowly, trust builds over time.
If you pass someone up because of BEFORE, you will be continuing to hurt yourself!

Answer 9

Look at it this way... you would be giving YOURSELF a chance to heal and experience real love. Just be upfront with him... and be upfront with yourself. If you don't feel ready then give yourself some time... but don't shut yourself off forever.

Answer 10

just be sure you're over the pain you've experienced in the past and really "put it in the past".. don't bring it up to this guy if you start seeing him.. if you find your feelings getting strong for him, like love, don't be afraid to let it go.. maybe something new is what you need..