It feels like everytime a great guy comes around... there's always something wrong with him. I duno what to do... i need advide on how to look past flaws that i seem to want to be there so that i can't have my own happy ending. Please help...
2006-10-08 15:46:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In your heart you believe (for whatever reason) that all men are flawed. When you met a man, you look for faults so you won't have to challenge your own belief.
You can tackle this in three ways. First, you can identify and challenge the basis of this belief, secondly, you can identify some flaws of your own. This will help you recognize that all individuals are flawed, you included. And, thirdly, you can start going out with these guys. You might discover that they are not as flawed as you thought, or if they are, that you can learn to forgive them their trespasses as they forgive you yours.
2006-10-08 15:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath, walk over to a mirror and look at yourself. Now honestly tell yourself all of your flaws. Who are we (women) to say that no guy is perfect, neither are WE!
You seem to be searching for something that doesn't exist! Perfection. Humans are inheritantly flawed and the quicker you realize that, the better off you will be.
Great realationships come when both people realize and love the flaws in their partner. Thats what makes it so great being with the love of my life, he knows all of my flaws and insecurities and I know his.Whats the quote? Only in love do we see how perfectly imperfect the other person is.
2006-10-08 15:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by moderncutthroat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep meeting guys. Eventually one of the 1.5 billion guys will sweep you off your feet, and even if you do find a flaw all of his other features will out way the flaws.
2006-10-08 15:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by kinreep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I see right through men so I have the same problem. All the good ones were taken from birth and the others are either players or are controlling little weirdos. I am keeping faith that there are atleast enough to go around for you and me. Good luck.
2006-10-08 15:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by sosickofred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to look at the bright side. If he is not up to your expectastion try to loosen your mind set. Just give him a change to show how good was he towards you. Might be his personalities or behaviour is above your expectation. In other words just gave the other guys a chance to prove and show how loving and caring towards you.
2006-10-08 15:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by hafidz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be so picky. Men won't settle for someone who can't solve 6x=12. You don't need to meet guys anyway. You need to meet teachers and a librarian. I would say based on your attitude and laziness, you need to marry an ugly lawyer to survive in life.
2006-10-09 03:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you have to stop being so picky. No guy is going to be perfect and them being guys makes that doubly true. So, if you find a guy that you really like and he has more good traits than bad, keep him.
2006-10-08 16:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kellie W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, what kind of flaws do you usually look for in a guy? is it something about his appearance that turns you off? is it an annoying sound he makes?
2006-10-08 15:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by benn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're like me...
not picky... We're just not going to compromise!
If it's meant to be, it wil happen.
Remember - NEVER SETTLE!!!
2006-10-08 15:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by ilovetiti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST TRY NOT TO LOOK DIRECTLY AT THOSE FLAWS LOOK AT WATS DEEPER INSIDE HIM
2006-10-08 15:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by Jakele K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋