my boyfriend is hanging out with his friends, and im all for that, theres no way i want to get in the way of that but when hes with them im scared hes going to cheat. on top of that this slutty ***** that he used to talk to just called him- he thinks shes hot. idk what to do and i cant talk to him without being so pissed even if i never tell him whats wrong. what can i do im so jealous and scared
2006-10-08 15:40:58 · 21 answers · asked by DownWithTheSickness 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you've answered your own question. You are scared. Jealousy is born out of insecurity. You aren't being fair to your boyfriend... by being "pissed" every time you talk to him, you are already accusing him of cheating... so.... how do you stop being jealous? Find out why you feel so insecure. Has he given you any reason to feel insecure? Maybe he isn't as serious about the relationship as you are.... if that is the case, then you need to reasess your relationship.... and take it from there. And remember, if he is going to cheat, you don't want him anyways...
2006-10-08 15:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you have to understand that if he's going to cheat...he's going to cheat. There isnt a guy out there that is not curious about what another girl looks like or feels like under her clothes. If given the opportunity, and he thinks that there may be a chance that he wont get caught, he's gonna do it.
What you need to do is to talk to him...tell him that you want to trust him...but you dont trust the girl. Tell him that it would crush you to find out that he did cheat on you and that it would be the end of the relationship. See what he says....if he's convincing...you have to give him the benifit of the doubt. If he sounds like he doesnt want to commit to a single person relationship...then you will have your answer.
2006-10-08 22:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by sent_from_heaven2me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is what it is...you can't force your boyfriend to make the right decisions...plus if your always angry at him or nagging him it just be an incentive to leave you...think about it...suck it up and deal with it...get a hobby or something to keep you occupied. Maybe get a new boyfriend...I know you are thinking yeah right ***** easy for you to say...but the point of a relationship is to enhance your life...not to torture you...Don't be scared get that punkass out of your life...if you can get him then u can get someone else that makes you happy..that deserves you...
If at first you don't succeed, then quit. There's no use being a damn fool about it.
W.C. Fields
2006-10-08 22:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by Alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what he does. See how he'll like it. Go out with your friends. Hey if he can hang out with girls, then why can't you hang out with guys. Why is she calling him? Did you ask him? You should tell him how you feel about it. And if he don't care then tell her. How and when did he meet her? Has he always known her or did he recently meet her? If he recently meet her, then you never know, there might be something you don't know about happening. But if he's known her for a long time, way before you, then I wouldn't be worried. Check his phone for text messages and stuff like that. If there's any proof you'll find it in there.
2006-10-08 22:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun i have bad news for you. Being jealious is a bad thing cause it means you will not ever have a good relationship. Trust is something that you give until you have reason to feel otherwise. If you think he is cheating then you need to move on. Having all your facts will help you make the right decision...
2006-10-08 22:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Jealousy is a simple thing to understand.
See you can only see life through your own eyes. You look at any given situation and say to yourself (subconsciously) What would I do in that situation? If you are looking at your bf and seeing him in an opportunity of cheating on you... You say would I cheat on him?...If the answer is yes.. Then you will condemn him.
Trust is a two way street. And it takes two to tango. So even if he was in the presence of a slut that was throwing herself at him... It would take HIM saying yes for anything to happen.
I have always looked at it like this... .IF I am with a woman that I love, & she ends up cheating on me... Well that means he made her happier than I do and I want her to be happy. So I let her go to him. That simple.
2006-10-08 22:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think every girl gets even a little jealous, even though we don't like to admit it. The best way to deal with it would be to calmly talk to him. By any means don't try to get back at him, or sneak around trying to look at his phone calls etc. Just let him know you think this girl might try to go after him and that's not ok with you. Let him know you trust him and like him (or love him) but you're worried about her.
Good luck!
2006-10-08 22:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that he truly loves you, well then your too insecure and letting it get the best of you. If you think there is a chance he would cheat on you, well then you don't have a healthy relationship and he probably will. Talk to him about it.
2006-10-08 22:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a self created negative emotion that needs to be stopped ! You are slowly killing yourself ! RELAX & stop imagining the worst ! Go find someone else to hang with and kick back !
2006-10-08 22:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jo Jo Gunn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've been in a similar situation.. I would say listen to your intuition. It is healthy for your man to hang with his friends.. BUT! If he is hangin with this girl that is a no no. Tell him that b/c you are aware that she is attracted to him, you'd prefer him to not be around her without you. Do not let her intimidate you. Be yourself and just let go and relax. Start hangin with your friends more.
2006-10-08 22:46:49 · answer #10 · answered by LJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋