so when a girl gets married, should she have to live with her mother in law?
2006-10-08 15:24:28 · 42 answers · asked by ellen<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There are no laws. If your husband wanted to get married he should have enough of a status to offer you a homer and your own things. It is best to start off with being on your own. later in life it is ok to have your mother-in-law around but NOT in the beginning of a marriage. Mom either!!!
2006-10-08 15:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage requires an individual to be physically, mentally, emotionally, psychological and financial prepared and matured since married life is not easy. Its a commitment and one has to think his/her decision hundred times before making a decision to go into the altar. You have to be sure about your feelings towards the other person and be definite that you are willing to live with this person in a same house 24/7. Knowing the person and accepting his/her positive and negative behaviors and attitudes is also very important to enable you to prevent major conflicts with your partner. As much as possible, don't live with your mother-in-law or any other in-laws. Its better that both of you have enough elbow room to adjust to your new life together. Sometimes, its not easy to make "private" issues "private" when you have somebody around in the same house. Its also hard to impose your house rules if you are living with your mother-in-law.
2006-10-08 15:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by Ces B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless of course there is just no other way around it, no. Do you have your own place? Would she be living with you or the other way around? Is she in need of care? Do you get along? The first year of a new marriage is hard enough with out the added stress of "mother" being so close by. Even without meaning to she can undermine your relationship. She may still try to "take care" of your new husband even though that is now your job. I would think that if you are ready to get married then your ready for your own place.
2006-10-08 15:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by GPHS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Living with your mother-in-law is not good. I would not get married if that was the only home I would have. Wait till you can afford to have your own place. That would be a lot better.
2006-10-08 15:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by marymac99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well where's the father in law and is your husband an only child? Because if your father in law is dead and he is an only child, then you are definitely stuck with your mother in law. But you can't complain because you have to be sensitive to your husband and his mother. However, if you two moved into his parents because that's the only place to go, then you should hold off on the wedding until you can afford your own place. How comfortable will you be? Your better off in your own home with your parents, don't you think?
2006-10-08 15:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if they can help it. You're suppose to start a new life as husband and wife. UNLESS, the mother in law is handicapped and the husband-to-be has been taking care of her all these years. Pretty cold hearted to kick her out because there's a new wife in the picture now.
2006-10-08 15:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by SatinDoll1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on circumstances..... but not necessary so. Some guys are very close with their parents and siblings. They are filial and wants to take care of them. Can a guy leave his mother who is unabled to take care of themself by her own, who loves his mother a lot because of the love she has showered him all this while etc? You got to look at circumstances and put yourself in your mother in law's shoes. Feels what she feels and what she hopes you would do for her. If you place these thoughts in your mind, you will be the greatest daughter in law every mother would loves to have.
Living with in-law is a great challenge and lots of sacrifices. Can you be that great woman?
2006-10-08 15:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by Nice Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! If you aren't married yet and your husband-to-be wants the two of you to live with his mother after you're married, DON'T GET MARRIED TO HIM, NOW OR EVER!
Any guy who wants to live with his mommy after he's married is not only a loser, but someone with serious psychological problems that you cannot fix.
2006-10-08 15:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shall not live with your in-law unless you wanna create drama. Yes even if you get a long great with them. You and your inlaws have different lifestyle and it's hard to live the way you like to. Plus you don't want to put your hubby/wife in between their parents. You are newly weds don't you want some private time with your love one? Like walking around the house naked. Making love anywhere and not have to worry about anyone home.
2006-10-08 19:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean literally live in the same house? No.
Do you mean live with as in live with the way her mother in law is? Yes, for the most part. You can't change her, really. However, if she tells you that you are a bad wife, mother, what have you, then it is time to say something to her about it. This is even more true if she is telling your kids bad things about you, or trying to get your kids to believe things you don't agree with. (Say, she's Christian and you're raising your kids Jewish or something like that, but she keeps telling them that Jewish people are bad. Horrible, but common practice in my experience.)
2006-10-08 16:09:56 · answer #10 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋