My name is Annette. I live in Edmonton. I am divorced. I have 4 children and 3 of them are not my ex husbands. I lied to him and said they were. I don't know how to deal the with guilt I feel. If he found out he would be devastated. I had one abortion because the guy I slept with was a different race than my husband. I don't know how to deal with that either.
2006-10-08 15:00:54 · 9 answers · asked by Annette Berdahl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I've had an abortion too although for a diffrent reason. I did it because I knew my husband (boyfriend at the time) could barely cover our own expenses let alone a child so I did what I thought was right. I'd rather do that than be like alot of people who have children that they cant take care of properly. I feel for you and hope you can get the help you need. And don't listen to all the judgemental people out there who want to chastize you for having an abortion you did what you thought was best and no one has to live your life but you. And its hard enough without people trying to make you feel bad. Which reminds me if any of you antiabortion people are reading this whats really pathetic is when you stnad outside an abortion clinic and yell at the women like me. All I heard was how wrong I was not anyone offering to pay my bills and keep my unborn child out of poverty. Lastly I know I did the right thing because after that we waited to have children till we were financially stable and we now have to great kids who are well taken care of.
2006-10-12 12:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by princesspie27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you want to talk with someone...like a counselor...to learn how to deal with your guilt. You can't change the past, but you can move on and be more careful with your body...especially for the sake of your children. I honestly believe that husbands (and ex-husbands) don't always have to know EVERYTHING. (Like how Rose never told her husband that she had been in love with Jack while on the Titanic.) Since he's your ex-husband, you may just want to let it be, consider your life a clean slate, and move on. I hope that helps...today is always a new day. Good luck!
2006-10-08 15:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by WonderingWanderer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey I live in Edmonton too, near west ed.
So you feel bad about the abortion? Well you should, but whats done is done, please never do something like that again!
I hate abortion, not you.
If I were you I would tell him, because if he is paying child support that is just NOT FAIR to him or any women he because involves with or gets married too or gets pregnant...even if you hate his guts!
YOU are in a scary situation, if you want to talk email me I will look soon.
2006-10-08 16:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh, you are so immature, you need to keep your legs closed or at least use protection. What are you thinking, that is awful. Your husband has the right to know who are & aren't his children (& he's your ex now, so it's not like it's going to damage your marriage). And your children need to know who their real dad is, tell them & thier Dad's now before it's too late & they miss out all their life. You need to come clean & prevent this from happening again.
2006-10-08 15:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow it seems u have a lot on ur plate right now maybe u should see some about this.....dealing with an abortion is very hard..find some u trust to talk to because keeping it inside could be bad for ur mental health
2006-10-12 11:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You murdered a innocent baby because you were unfaithul and cheated on your husband? How pathetic and sick are you?
What you did was 100% wrong nto to mention the number of sins you have done.
Here is a bit of a newsflash darling, once your ex husband finds out those kids are not his he can freaking report you and have you arrested.. My dads brothers wife did this same thing accept she was not sick enough to go kill a baby because she cheated.
I hope you burn in hell you sick b****
2006-10-08 15:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
See a Therapist! you owe it to yourself,any unfortunate partner(past or present) but most of all to your kids.You will pass on so many of your issues to your children if you don't resolve the issues,then talk to us about guilt!
2006-10-08 15:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by wecair2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly what you did was wrong . You were non the less unfaithful to your Ex before he became your ex.What made you do what you did?
2006-10-08 15:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by nishan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing you could do now is ask God for forgiveness and pray. It will help you im sure of it.
2006-10-08 15:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by maritza p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋