He just got married to someone else because of his daughter, but we are in love. What should we do?

Question

I posted a question before about me and my first love reuniting after not seeing or talking to each other for 8 years. We were young when we were together, but nothing bad ever happened between us, we just drifted apart. I searched for him and when I finally found him, he was getting married in 5 days to a woman he had been with for 8 years and has a 2 year old daughter with. We talked on the phone for hours for 2 days, it was like we were never apart. We met up with each other 3 days before he was getting married and all those old feelings came back for both of us. We fell in love all over again. We kept talking on the phone for hours and saw each other 2 more times before the wedding day. He was married yesterday, but he called me a 1/2 hour before and told me that he didn't want to do it, but it was too late to back out and he couldn't stand to not see his daughter every day. We talked today and are still in love and want to be together. What do we do now? Is it too late now?

Answer 1

well he shoulda never married this lady cuz of the kid. he can still be a father even though he is not married. u can not marry your kid, but you are still tied to it forever. marrying this lady almost makes him tied to her forever. unless he loves her and u dont know it. this was a big mistake. nothing u can do. do u wanna break a marriage?

Answer 2

It's not to late to get an annulment. Honestly if he loved you enough he would have backed out. It is never too late up till the point of I do. What ever you do, until he divorces or annuls it, stay away. If you can't handle just being friends then end it until he decides what to do. he made the choice to get married whether he wanted it or not and now he has to lie in the bed he made. You must take the other woman and the child in to consideration. They are a family now and it will be up to him to walk away for you, chances are, he probably won't if he didn't have the balls to stop the wedding, it says it all. Don't be a home wrecker. Some states allow women to sue the mistresses that tear their marraige apart and the awards are devestating.

Answer 3

It is never to late for true love but he shouldn't have gotten married. If he is a good father then no matter what he still would be able to see his daughter. He has that right. I feel like you guys should just be together, despite any problems you would soon face. Everybody have problems whether their relationship is all that or not. Life is too short. I feel he should just tell his wife, get his parental rights(if she tries do deny him seeing his daughter) and move on with you.. If you guys sneak around, it won't make things better. Some men tends to get comfortable with that. They never usually leave their wives no matter how much you love them.

Answer 4

You are being played. He might have told you he married for his daughter but in this day and age that's an excuse told to get sympathy from the woman the man wants to use. He can see his child every day if he wanted too. It's called joint custody or visitation rights. I suggest you find a man that will respect you enough to not want you to be his on the side ho because that's all you will be to him now that he is married. Men do this all the time and women fall for it hook line and sinker. You can do better.

Answer 5

since the guy has been with this woman for 8 years, has a child with her, and married her anyway, even after talking to you.....seems obvious to me that you should back off and give this child a happy home with her mother and father. anyway after 8 yrs of being without him, you've survived, and you still will. but if you interfere, this innocent child will pay the price. that is just not fair. think about that.there are many men out there, not just this one. good luck.

Answer 6

Wow, this is actually an unreal situation. Very movie like, which makes it cool. I say keep in close touch. Tell him you'd love to be friends still. See if he maybe wants to do something with his wife, you, and his daughter. Avoiding his wife all the time will only cause suspicions between them and possibly jeopardize his relationship with his daughter.

Answer 7

Well...it'd be wrong for him to leave the girl he married for you..not saying that he shouldn't be with you, he could've if he said no to the wedding..but I would think it is too late. It's up to him to decide if he wants to still be with that girl. That's a pretty difficult question to answer. Sounds like you need to ask HIM yourself.

Answer 8

Honey this guy is stringing you along. If he didnt want to marry this other woman he would not have. You are disrespecting him, yourself, and his wife by sneaking around seeing him. The next time you talk to him tell him that it is eihter her or me. I guarantee he will make a choice, but it may not be the one you want.

Answer 9

this has happened to me before..somethin like it...but i think that..if u are truly in love with this man..you need to tell him..and make sure he knows it.then u need to make sure he really loves you..like he says he does..honestly..i dont think that if he love you this much.that he would marry another woman..even if it was for his daughter..there are ways to work around that..u and him need to have aserious chat..not on the phone..in person..and u need to let him know how u feel...
and it's never too late..for anything

Answer 10

Its never too late. My brother got engaged, and his wedding was on july 17, but he broke up in 2005, so the wedding never happened. And the girl broke up then she said "i want to get back but i think its too late", then my mom said, "its never too late", but then my brother didnt want to get back.....so they didnt...and i dont think its too late.