I want to try my best to build a relationship with this girl by visiting her etc. etc. hanging out with her at lunch and all that. I'm planning on spending a good 2 months on trying to make her a best friend and then finally asking her out on a date so it feels more comfortable. Is this a better method than doing it on the spot?
The only thing that concerns me is if someone else asked her out within that time frame. She is only a sophomore right now and school started August. She doesn't know too many guys so that's kinda relieiving to me honestly. But I don't know what to do.
The reason why I want to wait until she knows me a little better is because she herself is shy. That's the reason she doesn't know many guys.
I;m not really trying to become her "Best Friend" just trying to become a casual "talk-to" friend that way I can ask her out a bit easier too,
2006-10-08 14:22:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, i can see you want to date her. your plan sounds good, but you might want to wait until she is at a pretty good comfort level with you and that might take long than 2 months.
believe me dude, if you're going to be as nice to her as you say you are. she's not going to say yes to anybody but you.
2006-10-08 14:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by hey heather. =] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that since she's shy you are doing the best thing by taking time to get to know her and build her trust. It shows you really care about her. You can't really give yourself a timeframe though, because you can plan for things like this. Just go with the flow and whenever you are getting a "I want to be more" vibe from her go for it. That may be a week or three months from now. Whatever you do, DON'T ask her out now, you'll only scare her away and lose her as a friend or potential girlfriend. And be aware that after you build all this up with her your going to have to make sure that you are ready for the more serious relationship that will evolve. Don't be scared though. It really will be a good thing.
Good Luck to you.
2006-10-08 21:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you said Hi to her, or does she not even know who you are?
You need to have some kind of casual verbal contact with her so she knows you.
You most likely don't have the same lunch time, otherwise you could go ask her if she minded if you sat by her at lunch.
Or after school, you might walk up to her and ask her if she would like to go for a hamburger.
I don't know if you take the same buses, but if you do, sit by her and talk to her. Ask her how her day was; What she likes to do; If she has any hobbies, and easy questions like that that might get her talking to you.
I would not wait.
You sound like a sensitive and nice guy, and I think she will see that.
Good Luck.
Sally
2006-10-08 21:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't even bother trying to become being her best friend..that may just confuse things and she may see you so much as a best friend she won't date you. Take 2 weeks to get to know her then ask her out. That's all.
During those two weeks, do some bonding things so you can see the real her and she can see the real you. Go out to eat, go for walks, rake leaves and then jump in them, just sit, chill and talk days etc..
GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-08 21:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by Rx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only NO, but H*** NO!!!!!!!! Ask her out if your interested. Someone will probably beat you to it if you don't. Besides, being "friends" with a women and then having it turn into more only works in the movies. If you show me a man and a women that are "best friends", I'll place money on it that one of them is interested in being more than friends, but the other one is only interested in "friendship".
2006-10-08 21:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a good method in my book most of the guys i know go that way but remember to not become too close of friends or it will feel even more uncomfortable the it would've in the start
2006-10-08 21:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by cat123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! That is the best way. That way you guys can get to know each other and she'll appreciate it more. My guy did that. We were friends first and it was great. Hung out and everything and then he gave me my first kiss in the sweetest way. Take your time and I like your plan. You'll be fine, she'll fall for you that way.
2006-10-08 21:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to enter the "friend zone" by your own actions. Be sure that you come through as flirtatious, mysterious, whatever! Right now she's looking for friends and if she looks at you that way, it'll be uphill from there.
2006-10-08 21:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by bardstale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sweet
Become friends first, but always keep in mind that if someone else comes around for her or you, that you are still going to be friends even if it gets weird.
2006-10-08 21:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw hints her way, that way she gets an idea that you like her, and if someone else try's to make a move on her she will think of you.
2006-10-08 21:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by missouri girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋