What kinds of influence does a mother have on her daughter's development as she learns to become a woman?

Question

How is communication vital in fostering a mother/daughter relationship?

Answer 1

When I look back on my mother and my relationship with her I'm not so sure what kind of effect she had. I am shy like her, but I like people, unlike her. She'd be a hermit if she could. She's not at all into anything womanly, and I am, big time. But, you can say that she did pass her values on to me. Communication is vital in ANY relationship. A daughter will look at her mother and learn from her but it doesn't mean that she will take verything to heart.

Answer 2

A mother has a major influence on her daughter's development. The influences consist from everything from maturity, respect, and social. I have 2 daughters one step and one natural. My step daughter and I are 2 different people not only because she was raised by her biological mother whom has a different standard of living from,I whom has a higher standard. I have noticed the differences between my 2 girls. I don't agree with some of her learned behavior from her mother and have discussed this with her daughter. Communication is very important because if you don't instill the proper morals of conduct in your daughter she will grow up in the world learning the hard way.

Answer 3

Everyones experience is different. I can tell you from mine that it doesn't matter what you do to try to ensure your daughter makes good choices and avoids the mistakes that you may have made. Communicating with a child becomes ineffective as they get into the higher teen years. In the end she will do exactly as she wants right or wrong. And she will lie and go to her "friends" before she would come to you if she has a serious problem that she thinks you won't understand. There are two sides to the coin of motherhood and you should be ready to deal with which ever one you and your daughters relationship falls on.

Answer 4

Considering that the mother is the major role model for the teen, set a good example and keep the communication lines open. Don't try to be her best friend, just be the best parent you can be. Be firm with your requirements but allow her a little freedom so she can develop her social skills she learned from you. And the most important thing of all, let her know every time she leaves the house that you love her unconditionally.

Answer 5

When I finally realized that I couldn't stay up 24/7 and my oldest became more mobile, driving at 17, we established that she should call just before I went to bed. Then I would know what time to expect her. She knocked on my bedroom door when she got home so I didn't have to get up and check on her every time I rolled over. (I have raised my kids as a single parent since she was 12.)

We talked about responsible decison making and that she should not harm my child, especially since that child was her.

When she started talking about her friends sneaking liquor I asked her what she wanted to try. I bought it. I told her she could have her wine coolers at home but that when she was out she was never to drink. This was extremely effective. She also had instructions not to give the liquor to her friends. And I was surprised, she didn't drink the whole thing, it would still be there weeks later (not all of it.) Eventually she would tell me what she wanted to buy. This was obviously not a weekly or even monthly thing. But she respected my limits because her requests were being met. And I knew she was learning to drink responsibly at home, not out with a bunch of kids.

I also quit telling her to be home at any specified time. I just aked what time she'd be home and she came home.

The hazard of this plan is that your child is not sneaking around behind you. She said she'd be home at 1:30, and viola, she's home.....with Amanda, and Jenny and Noah.....giggling and tromping like a herd of Bulls through your house. Cuz she's not in trouble....she's not sneaking ...and she's home....

I had the great honor of helping my daughter pack when she left for college. We spent the last three days together. I kissed her and watched her drive down the street to her new life without me. And I knew I had been a good mom. She is working two jobs and going to college. She calls all the time now. This was the end result I aimed for when raising my precious daughter, that our relationship could survive all of our lives....based on love and respect.

Answer 6

well first if there is no respect between the two the daughter is less likely to resond to the mother, she is more likely to act negativily toward the mother, and pretty much do the opposite of what she feels the mother wants. if the mother was not a positive role model when the child was younger then the she may not respond at all to the mother. kids remember everything.

Answer 7

A mother can have a lot of influence on her daughter's development, not just as she enters her teenage years, but throughout her complete
life. In every aspect of life, a mother can take the leading role in nurturing her daughter and teaching her proper dieting, and wellness care for her body, good personal hygiene, dealing with changes in your body, as well as your life.
The list is never ending and important.

Answer 8

My mom was recovering from a very bad first marriage and dealing with an even worse second marriage by the time she had me. I watched how she viewed and treated men and even though I never once was wronged by a man I started to automatically hate men too. This is something that I brought into my own marriage and had to deal with.

Answer 9

Communication needs to be there because girls need to learn certain life skills that they can only get from their moms but in order to get those they have to communicate.

Answer 10

i've read somewhere that ur becoming your mom when u r one.....