i have 3 kids and use to love going out when they were younger but up till about a year ago ive not felt like socializing at all..im not old yet whats my problem..will i get my zing for fun back?my kids are 14,13,9
2006-10-08 14:04:59 · 5 answers · asked by tazzle 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm 25 and have 5 year old twins. I feel more like I'm in my 30's, so I know what you mean. Sometimes making a new friend can help, you know feeling the energy in making a new connection. Are you in good shape? Sometimes exercising can give your mood a boost.
Anyways, I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you. You've been a mom for 14 years now, you've got 2 teenagers. I'm sure you'll get your zing back. My mom (whose been single since 1983 - no joke!) was a total bore until she turned 50 (just a few years ago), then all of sudden she joined all these single groups and had all these new friends and was taking all these trips. She started looking better, taking better care of her appearance, dressing more fashionable.
Anyways, good luck in getting your groove back Stella!
2006-10-08 15:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt the same way. I am 35 and have 3 girls (16 months, 3 years, 7 1/2 years). I have not had a full night's sleep in over 3 years. I decided to go back to work part-time, thinking that it would help with my "blues." Don't get me wrong, I love my kids and being a mother is the best thing that ever happened to me. However, there are times I feel I have lost a part of myself. I recently started going to a monthly gathering with some of the neighborhood moms. A new neighbor organized the group. It is a mom's night- no spouses or children allowed. We get together on the 1st Thursday of the month. The mom's take turns hosting (even if it is still at her house, as her husband is able to take the kids out from 7:00-9:00, a different mom will bring all the food). We spend the first hour socializing and the second hour playing a game (usually Bunko if we have enough people). There have been a couple of times that I felt like I had to drag myself there (was not feeling well or just got home from seeing clients). However, once I am there I always have a great time. It is nice because it gives me support and a since that I am not alone in my parenting woes, we are able to share funny or positive parenting stories, and we also have time where we are not talking as parents at all. You may want to ask around or even start a group of your own. It is worth it!
2006-10-08 22:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by teacher/mother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a mom is tough and you may be just in a slump that your body needs... adding a social life with or without your kids can be a little much to add to what it takes to care of your home and those 3 kids14,13,9... GIRL... you have your hands full... don't worry to much... once mine got into college and were more independent... I found myself looking in to some things for myself... you'll perk up... and if you don't you might talk to your Dr. I hope your not suffering from mild depression... Good luck and take care!!!
2006-10-08 21:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frequent exercise will help as well as healthy eating and taking care of yourself including a new hairstyle and manicures, new and stylish clothes, you'll want to show off the new you.
2006-10-09 01:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mid life Cristi's.Am going throw mine young but I don't have any kid.Everybody different.
2006-10-08 21:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋