you'll see....Im a 23 year old girl Im doing master degree in the collegue (history of mexican art) and work for a big newspaper ....and Im very involved in several research projects in collegue .....and when I find a guy they always flirt with me .... (Im very good looking true nice body, green eyes, dark hair, etc...) but as soon as they found that Im very academic type they run away.......should I pretend to be dumb???
2006-10-08 13:40:24 · 25 answers · asked by lil princess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe they just give up because they think they're not good enough for you.
you need to assure these guys that they are or change your social circle to a higher class.
don't try to change who you are, you can't keep up an act forever and it's lying anyway!
you will find the right guy for you, your very young. don't get hung up on settling down.
as soon as you stop looking, he'll turn up out of the blue.
good luck. you deserve happiness the same as everyone else but it doesn't mean you need a man to be happy x x
2006-10-08 13:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by tuppassister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never settle, it would be your worst mistake, and it would go against your personality. You are a self driven individual, this is good, you don't need someone to validated who and what you are. If those guy headed for the hills it's not a fault of yours, but rather they knew that they could not handle the person that you are, and for that you should be grateful, that they themselves had enough strength of character to recognise that they might somehow unintentionally divert your from your goals.
Chin up there is a guy out there for you, don't look so hard you will find each other when the time is right.
2006-10-09 08:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by Solitary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, I think a lot of men feel threatened by a successful & confident woman. This is mostly down to their own insecurities & not to do with you.
I don't think you should pretend to be dumb - do you really want to attract the sort of guy who needs that in order to feel ok about himself? Also, how long would you be happy to keep up the pretence - are they worth it?
Be proud of your positive attributes & sooner or later you'll meet someone who wants a partner to relate to as an equal.
Good luck x
2006-10-08 22:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by bombsh3ll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that you're meeting so many boys with such low self-esteem. you sound as wonderful as my girlfriend who is very similar (stunning looks, masters in political science, confidence to carry her own in any situation, and financially secure).
i don't think you should ever dumb yourself down for a boy. always be honest to yourself and with others. you are ridding yourself of those guys who aren't good enough for you and soon enough you'll meet some nice blokes who are much more suitable and capable of being with a girl who has your amazing qualities.
all the best.
2006-10-08 22:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What u mean too successful? I love a girl who can keep up with me in terms of brainpower (shame I don't have any). I'd ask u out myself if it weren't for the fact u r American (which is usually my luck). Don't dumb down just to impress, ur intelligence is a part of u, it should be liked for EVERY part of u.
2006-10-09 03:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by Knight-wing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just be yourself, you'll find someone who's compatable. If you start off being fake, the relationship won't last. Maybe some guys are worried they'll look dumb, but who cares, you'll find someone who wont mind.
2006-10-08 20:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play dumb.. You are what you are and men should understand that. Just be yourself !!! And by the way it takes more than good looks to make a sexy woman as its whats inside that counts.
2006-10-08 20:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by JON H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's a collegue? I'm dumb! You're scaring even me, and I'm not even a man! Aaaah!
2006-10-08 20:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by Evil Wordmonger, LTD LOL 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's a collegue?
2006-10-08 20:53:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it is your inability to string a decent sentence together, combined with patently obvious and acute narcissistic tendancies.
2006-10-09 09:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by AussieRockchic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋