My co-workers have told me that there's this divorced woman (early 40's, but looks YOUNGER), at the office, who seems to find me attractive.
This statement has also been claimed by the woman's closest female friend.
The problem is: She's OLDER than I am, but looks good.
However, when I used to see her, she used to act like there was nothing going on and greeted me as if she HAD to.
Now, everything’s changed. She is much MORE friendly, but now I am the one who acts TOTALLY CARELESS towards her. I like her and I have started to think a lot on her, but I just pretend I don’t care about, though curiousity is killing me!
HOWEVER, some of my other friends have warned me about her. They claimed she likes to go out with younger men and all that, so she can feel young. That was something that let me blasted, specially since I had started to feel something about her.
Now the question is: Does she like me? Or is she just a woman that only likes to get laid with younger men???
2006-10-08 13:34:00 · 8 answers · asked by R. H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Office romances are bad for everyone as a rule, and wanting a woman old enough to be ones mom begs certain questions best left unasked.
sounds to me like she may be the middle aged slut my mother warned me about. She'll ride you hard, but then, sooner or later, she will tell you to kiss off "just because", or you'll walk in on her and the boy from the mail room and get your heart broken.
2006-10-08 13:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by fullmoonwolf4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your friends have warned you, does that mean that they know that she has dated many other younger men? Or, is it that she just finds you attractive? I guess you could just simply ask her, she will probably just tell you the truth. Then you take it from there. Personally, I would not date a man who was 20yrs younger than me no matter how attracted I was to him. Because we are at two totally different stages in our lives and it would be unfair to him or me. Either he would give up some things and miss out or I would be going back wards and that would be very silly. A few years age difference is ok but 20 years is really pushing it. When you are 30 she will be 50 and when you are 40 she will be sixty, WOW. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-08 13:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful all around. One, since everyone seems to know her, there has to be some truth in the matter. Be honest with yourself, are you only interested in her because she is finding you attractive and she looks good? You didn't say anything really about her character.
Also, It really isn't a good idea to date your co-workers. If things do not work out, then you have to work with them and see them everyday. If things go bad, then she may say very bad things about you. I honestly do not think it is a good idea to give her a second thought.
I just looked at your "profile" and see that you have been asking this same question for 2 weeks now. Does that mean you are still pondering about this woman? Or you just want to see how many times you can ask this question before people notice? I hope you have not got together with her if you are still pondering.
2006-10-08 13:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excellent question. I would spend a bit of time with her just talking, maybe invite her for a cup of coffee or ask her to lunch sometime and feel her out, so to speak. I think if she's interested, she'll probably let you know, if not, you could always try the direct approach and ask her out to dinner or a movie or something and see what she says.
The big question is: are you interested in her?
2006-10-08 13:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by bookyone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id say the latter.....She probably want a younger dude so that she can feel young , or maby she is still young at heart!!!! Either way your bets bet is to really find out if she thinks long term or fling. Then you will know quite a bit more about what your dealing with.
2006-10-08 13:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by plainofexistance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask her to dinner or something, and find out for yourself? Your friends shouldn't be the one who makes that kind of decision for you. You can keep your eyes open and if it seems that she's just using you to feel young, you know what to do, right? Just don't miss out on something special from hearsay.
2006-10-08 13:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both
2006-10-08 13:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by Immortal lestat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep 100 feet away from her. (she's a wacko)
2006-10-08 13:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋