When they are in a relationship in high school, college, or any other relationship that's not a married one, that they should just "go after" all the people they like, who are already involved? I've seen it countless times, when someone might post a question about liking or being interested in someone, and others will advise them to go for it, because it's not like that person is married. Isn't this setting them up for more hurt if they get rejected? So, then they will be posting again about how they approached the person they liked, who was already involved, and they rejected them. Why are relationships only seen as serious relationships, if the two people are married, and anything else is fair game? People can have serious relationships outside of marriage. What about high school sweethearts? I'm not knocking anyone, just wondering why people encourage others to break up relationships.
2006-10-08 13:33:08 · 8 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lol, thank you arrocket. But i'm not weird, just unique. At least that's how I like to think of myself. ;-)
2006-10-08 13:37:35 · update #1
Personally, I haven't given anyone advice to go after someone who is in a relationship-whether it be marriage or not. If I saw a question about that I'd most likely advise going against the thought. I agree with you, it doesn't matter if the person is married or dating someone, they're still WITH a significant other. Who knows besides those two people whether they're planning marriage or are in love?
Thanks for bringing this up for people to think about!
2006-10-08 13:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until people are committed to marriage it is NOT a serious relationship. Even going steady is not marriage and the two should not be considered the same. In high school, going steady should mean that you date no one else, but it is very easy to end a going steady relationship, not like a marriage where there are legal concerns. I have always recommended high school students to date as many different people as they can to learn how to build relationships. Very few 16 year olds are emotionally strong enough for committed relations, they don't yet have the maturity and understand yet. Too often they are motivated by the surge in hormones that ALL teens feel and that is not rationality. I do not recommend sabotaging or ignoring a serious relationship, but young people need the freedom to relate to many other personalities before they can begin to comprehend what kind of personality is right for them to commit to.
2006-10-08 20:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by SEEKER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hadn't thought about it but you're right. I don't think anyone should ever try to break up a relationship, whether married or not. Marriage is not the only way to commit.
2006-10-08 20:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because, until hand-fasted, married, or at least engaged for some time(and living together), it ain't serious! it only becomes serious when a formal commitment is made.
2006-10-08 20:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by fullmoonwolf4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, people like drama.
I'm not into breaking up other relationships, plus I don't like to share!!
2006-10-08 20:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by joulesofaffection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I were contributing a sound answer to this. That said, I dunno ... I've noticed the same thing too. You've a really good point there.
2006-10-08 20:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by rgrace4488 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have no morals or sense of decency!!!
2006-10-08 20:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are wierd....like you lol.
2006-10-08 20:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋