my boyfriend and i have been together for about 10 months now. We are both virgins and i have wanted to have sex for a long time. He grew up in a strict household and he always has to think about EVERYTHING. he has always told me that he has wanted to wait. we have gotten very close to having sex many times but he always says he is not ready. he went to college a few months ago, and he is still trying to decide if he wants to have sex. he knows i want to share that with him so bad and now it seems that we fight consitantly over the whole sex issue. what should i do?
2006-10-08 13:24:34 · 16 answers · asked by girlygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Going to college, usually opens doors for many different ways of life. I would think really hard about him. I don't want to judge him......
2006-10-08 13:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is not an all or nothing switch.
if he wants to wait until marriage for intercourse, that is fine, but it should not stop the two of you from exploring other possibilities. if he is not willing then he needs professional help.
this is not a matter of religious beliefs. this is not a matter of him being ready. this is a matter of trust and personal bonding. if it is not for him with you at this time and he cannot find any other alternatives, then you are not really a couple. you are two individuals and he has already made his choice.
2006-10-11 05:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Vivian Vixen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did it ever dawn to you that your boyfriend may have put you on a pedestal that you may not comprehend and values you for more than what you have between your legs.many women today crave for a relationship that challenge their intellect and not their physical attributes,you are doing the opposite ,value yourself much more and find things to do that will strengthen your relationship outside of having sex and solidify your future,some partners are not ready for a true challenge,are you,?Do the math.
2006-10-08 20:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by delmy d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me you don't really fit together. I think it sounds good that it's the guy who wants to wait for a change. You should appreciate it, when the time comes it will be worth the wait. Just don't push him into it, respect his wish.
2006-10-08 20:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by Magnuna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you wait until marriage? Sex is not the only thing in a relationship. I think it is good that he wants to wait. If you have problems with that then you are not the right one for him.
2006-10-08 20:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Contesta 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should lay off him, there are not many men who have that integrity, and if you don't appreciate, someone else will. Prove you love him, by showing him, he's worth waiting for. Or simply go find someone else with lesser values.
2006-10-08 20:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by burni.romo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put yourself in his shoes,
if he's the one wanting to have sex and you are the one who is 'wanting to wait'
then if he continues to start fights over this, wouldn't you think that he's being a bit pushy?
true love requires respect and tolerance for the other person's wishes, and if you are able to achieve this and respect his wishes, give him time to sort things out instead of hurrying him... he's gonna love you even more and even surprise you one day.
believe me, he's a keeper. just hold on to your sex drives and hormones :)
2006-10-08 20:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by Spidergurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not doing it for religious reasons then you need to respect that or split up with him.
If he is not doing it because "he is not ready" like you said, then he needs to jump into the pool and feel the water
2006-10-08 20:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I'm with MoonShadow on this one. He's gay. Listen to the voice(s) of experience. Move on now honey, save yourself the pain.
2006-10-08 20:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop pressuring him ... he needs to be ready ... some guys (and girls) realize that there are ramifications of having sex and thier parents did a great job in making sure of it ... he needs to be ready not pressured, and the way it sounds you may be pressuring him to break up with you ... relax it'll happen
2006-10-08 20:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋