Okay, I met this guy in the ER the other day. He brought in his mother and he was soooo handsome. We sat tand talked for hours and we really clicked. The only thing that made my tummy clinch was when when he said he has two little girls who are 2 and 11 months old. He said the mother of his children left them when the 2nd one was born and hasn't been heard of in over 9 months. He gave me his number but I am affraid this is too much for me because I have a 4 month old daughter myself and I do not think that I will be able to handle 3 children in diapers!!! I need to know if it is at all a good idea to get to know this guy a little better and give him a chance. I think he is such a really good guy and he comes off as a guy who loves children.....NEED HELP!!!
2006-10-08 13:19:53 · 12 answers · asked by *Kyden* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i ment to say that his kids are 2 YEARS AND 11 MONTHS.....Sry!!!
2006-10-08 13:22:15 · update #1
if it's meant to be , god must think u can handle it...maybe he is a good comprimising guy who doesn't lack responsibilty...also a single dad of daughters is a rare find....lot of qaulities reg single dads or guys don't have
2006-10-08 13:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the first no -no which is moving to fast before the relationship can even get a chance. He just said call - not come and marry me and take care of my children.
Right now all he probably looking for is a friend that share the same interest and love for kids. Start off with play dates. This could be good for you and him because I am sure right now both of your lives revovle around your children.
As women, we tend to over think relationships and pick out wedding gresses from the first hello. Sometimes men just need friends.
2006-10-08 13:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by Miss. Tee98 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call him. Life is too short not to be happy and maybe after knowing each other for awhile, you would be really happy together. You will never know if you don't give it a try.
Most of lifes problems and challenges can be worked out through compromise. Don't worry so much about the future.
We can only take one day at a time anyway. Right?
2006-10-08 13:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK..this is the main thing you need to ask yourself.
Can you accept those 2 children as your own and can he accept your child as his own?
If the answer of those 2 questions is yes, then there is a possibility the relationship can work out. However, if you will have issues that start with "that's not your child" or that's my child not yours and you have no right to talk that way to MY child etc etc etc..you will have issues later on ..so think about it!
When 2 familes are blended, you come with extra baggage and the families are either stronger or simply pure hell. It's up to the parents.
He seems to be a good daddy..dedicated to his kids so that in itself, tell me a lot.
2006-10-08 13:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ness 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok first of all who says you have to marry the guy. All your doing is talking to the guy. If you like him then there is nothing wrong with you guys going out to dinner or maybe even a movie. Sometimes dads need a little time away with the kids. Just like moms do. So if you think you can handle dinner and movie then good luck.
2006-10-08 13:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really want to get to know him better...i think you should. Look it in this way...both are going through the same situation...maybe it would be a great advantage for both of you!...you know?...supporting each other!...since you understand each other lives. Don't think about it...just let things happen. Go slow and you will see in the way how it turns out. Maybe you won't get into a relationship...but maybe you will end up having a very beautiful and supporting friendship don't you think?
2006-10-08 13:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by There! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being his "friend" but do not dive into a relationship with him. You need to look out for your own little one and concentrate on being her mom.
The mother of his children may just come back into the picture and it sounds like she is dealing with post-partum depression. Perhaps that is the reason why she left or she may have left because of HIM.
2006-10-08 13:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by TheOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understood the age of the kids. First the baby mamma thing~she is probably still around somewhere~sounds suspect. But if you genuinely feel like he's a good guy and that he's worth your time then go get him girl, but be cautious and don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
2006-10-08 13:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by laedeb 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should get to know him more. you can't base a relationship off of how many kids he has. if you really like this guy, then go ahead with him. 3 kids might be a struggle, but get to know him more. who knows, he's not the man that you need.
2006-10-08 13:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Jamie. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should call him...I'm sure he doesn't expect you to just jump right in and play mommy to his children.
2006-10-08 13:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by Deleted 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋