You break up with them to get them to appreciate you more and beg you back, but then, the exact opposite happens? Lol, they move on, don't appreciate you more...especially since you broke up with them, and don't come back at all? Isn't this a prime example of why you shouldn't play games in a relationship? Wouldn't it just pay to talk to them first? But, what about the "absence makes the heart grow fonder" theory?
2006-10-08 13:01:54 · 9 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes.
Unless your relationship is rock soild, absence does NOT make the heart grow fonder, it makes the heart go WANDER.
I try to tell people this, but nobody listens, haha.
2006-10-08 13:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by Deleted 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I've never done that. At least it sounds like you learned a valuable lesson in all this. Why would you break with someone and expect them to want you back? It definitely shows you should not play games but should be open and honest in a relationship.
The whole "absence makes the heart grow fonder" thing is if you went away for a few days or if you "took a break." Breaking up with someone is not the way to go if you actually want to be with them.
2006-10-08 20:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a prime example of why you shouldn't play those games...they never work out the way you want them to.
As far as absence making the heart grow fonder...that is more of a fable than a theory...there is a huge difference.
No relationship gets stronger if you are not together...never believe otherwise.
2006-10-08 20:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absence makes the heart grow fonder only works if you are in love. When you dumped him, he probably wasn't in love with you anymore, so he moved on. Next time, don't mess around with somebody's head.
2006-10-08 20:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 times out of 10, this theory works...however, yeah....sometimes it backfires....but i'd like to think that everything happens for a reason and if i was that quick to play games in the relationship, then i didn't really care about them in the first place.
2006-10-08 20:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be too late, but if you get a chance to talk to him, tell him WHY you broke up with him. He may be glad you did, or felt like you didn't really like or appreciate him either.
If you get the chance, ask + tell each other what things would cement your relationship and make you both feel loved and appreciated beyond all doubt.
Good luck.
2006-10-08 20:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they walked away that fast, they weren't too attached to you. You still may have a chance if you just move on, even if your pride is hurt, and meet others.
2006-10-08 20:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by Garnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't play with love like that.. its foolish, and childish
2006-10-08 20:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no
2006-10-08 20:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by tristan2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋