but now that we are not together he totally ignores me except for when we are together by ourselves (AKA every thurs cuz i am forced to be alone with him) then he tries to kiss me or grabs my butt or something stupid like that....he knows that i still like him and he takes advantage of it i want to be with him again but i dont want him to treat me like this when we arent together what do i do?
2006-10-08 12:50:34 · 23 answers · asked by jib 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok i dont want to hear that i shouldnt be with him at all and that i deserve better or anything like that so plz dont say that
2006-10-08 12:51:42 · update #1
Look at the situation the way he is. Nothing, is in the way except air and opportunity. You did say ex not next !
2006-10-09 11:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately we don't have any control how other people feel or what they do. We do, however, have control over what we do and say. That said, your ex sounds like he has no respect for you as a woman. It's disrespectful to touch you like that. You aren't property. And don't you think it's mean to know how you feel about him and then to exploit those feelings? And why are you "forced" to be with him? Are you sure you want to be with someone who treats you like this? If I were you, I'd cut whatever situation that put me in contact w/ a man who didn't respect me and who ignored me, hoping to let everyone else know he's available. You are probably a very pretty girl, there are a lot of men who will have respect. And love--over rated--do you have any idea how many times you'll be in love in your life? Plenty! Don't sell yourself short. I know this is probably not what you want to hear but better to have something to think about than to play the game he's trying to force you to play. He, in reality doesn't have any power here--you do! Self respect and self love are more important than a manipulative ex who has neither! Don't you think?
2006-10-08 20:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by devilmaycare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why he ignores you when other are around is because he doesn`t want to look like he would care about you.but he actually does...well ignore him aswell,when other are there...when you get alone the next time,and you see that he wants to kiss you,go you after it and kiss him.grab his but,and tell him you miss him...he will be shocked from your new attitude.he likes you for sure but he is affraid to make it public cause friends would laugh him out...boys will always be boys,you can`t change it.be strong.If you have seen "Fatal Attraction" part two,be just like sharon stone in her role,play with him,make him want you every second more and more.
this is the only way to make him only yours.teach him a lesson.he won`t forget about you the rest of his life.be senzual,when you speak,when you walk,when you look at him.use all what you have got to make him mad about you.
hope it helped
2006-10-08 20:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by donatella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That used to happen to me to but then I just decided to stop talking to him or even being near him because he wasn't asking me to go back out with him. But he was using me because he knew I was still in love with him and he would kiss me and grab my boobs and butt. I just had to put this to a stop because it was getting no where. So yeah I have been threw that before. It really is a waste of time. I had to show him that I had self-respect for myself. Self-respect should always come first. If you don't respect yourself he won't respect you at all.
2006-10-08 19:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we dont know the details of your breaking up in the first place.
Have you told him how you feel? you say he takes advantage of you, but he wouldnt be playing around with ya if he didnt have feelings for you also. Just talk to him. Atleast write him a letter or email about how you feel. Then you will know what to do about it from there.
2006-10-08 19:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason he wants you so much is because he treats you like shi*t. If you started ignoring him, he would wonder why, and think that you're over by him, which would make you sooooo much more attractive.
For some f**ked up reason, we humans want what we can't have. You want him, because he doesn't want you. It's time to turn the tables.
2006-10-08 19:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be with him ALONE. Those things are bound to happen.
For me, love is more like a conscious selection than some random burst of emotion. I pick who I want to love, and I do that carefully. You need to do the same thing.
2006-10-08 19:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by septiant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop grabbing your butt, or whatever it is that makes you feel uncomfortable. He knows that you still like him that's why he's treating you like that cause he thinks he can get away with it. You have to assert yourself and tell him to quit.
2006-10-08 19:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Leela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about the touching, groping, etc that goes down every Thursday. Tell him you don't like it and you aren't that kind of girl.....
Communication is the key! Tell him how you feel and see what happens. Good luck.
2006-10-08 19:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up! What the hell is the point of asking for other people's opinon if you aren't even open to hearing anything except what you WANT.
forget about him, he doesn't respect you.
2006-10-08 20:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by jessarose143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋