People...plz help!!!!!...Me and my girlfriend had ben thru some rough phase cos of the distnace,i love her a lot and m tryin to get the relationship back on track.But she says its upto me to bring things back to normal.She now cannot assure me that we will endup together...So im confused wether to keep tryin from my side first r to get an assurance from her and then try my best.I kno i can get her back,but again i donr wanna b heartbroken after givin all i have.I dont kno wats right now?
2006-10-08 12:43:48 · 8 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are the only person that know what is right for you. but if she is laying it all on your doorstep, then I would just cut my losses now. it takes both of you to make a relationship work, and keep it on track, if you are putting forth all the effort, then what is she doing? ask yourself that. is it worth the effort and pain that she is going to put you through before she decides that she is willing to stay with you. Ask yourself this. Do you want somebody that is willing to compromise and meet you in the middle? Or do you want someone who is willing to let you do all the work, and then they reap all the benifits from the deal? Treat it like a business, you wouldn't want your partners making all the money while you were the only one working your butt off to get the money would you?
2006-10-08 12:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by smitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, it takes both people in a relationship to make the relationship work! if she is not doing any of the work and you are working for both of you, i would just call it quits! i am not being mean since i had to break up with my bf since i did not feel like putting any more effort in my relationship while he was going out the whole 9 yards! if she does assure you that you two will end up together after so much stuff, she is having second doubts which mean one thing: heading for splitsville! no one knows if they will end up together with the other person but at least they try and if she is not putting in the time, it is so over! you just need to move on and i know that you love her a lot but you need to think what is best for you also in the end, not only her! best of luck!
2006-10-08 12:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, long distance relationships are the most trickiest to keep together. But I'm in one too, so here's what you do...
If you can call her, call her...
When you can send her some email, do it...
When you wanna tell her something, or send her something through the mail, then go for it man.
If you really feel like this relationship isn't worth giving up on, then make an effort to keep it together! ^_^
I wish you luck man.
2006-10-08 12:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by La Reina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is she expecting only you to make all the effort? A relationship is not a one way street. both people have to put forth the effort or things will never work. it sounds to me like she doesn't really want to pursue this relationship, so i'd end things with her quickly before things get really hairy.
2006-10-08 12:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not worth it, the girl is answering u now in another way, she cant assure u then its other way of telling u to stop ur relationship now..
2006-10-08 12:49:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want but you are not sure if it's good for you. Is no warranty on it but how you take care of it. And trust, nothing left.
2006-10-08 12:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound like she is willing to put forth much effort. think it best to move on with your life.
2006-10-08 12:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by Tired Old Man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang in there!!! give it one more try and see how it goes and then its up to her!1
2006-10-08 12:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋