I'm so Afraid of Rejection...?

Question

I am 15 and I am in LOVE with this boy. Lets just say words cannot express how much I like him. I think he likes me back but he's too shy to tell me. He has always been a shy person. I'm afraid to ask him out ((but I REALLY want to BAD)) but I'm afraid of rejection. If I was rejected by him, my world would turn from color to black and white and my heart would burst into a million peices. What should I do?

Answer 1

well, you're still a teenager, so you could always have your friends ask his friends...

Answer 2

i know that rejection is something that none of us want to deal with yet we have to. look, i am 22 and i have been where you are right now and know exactly how you feel and trust me, being rejected at 15 or 16 is not great! you have to at least give it a try and even though what happens is not what you might have pictured as the end result, so be it! you get rejected, you move on and you find another guy and you never show that you are still hung up on him!if you get rejected it will be hard but at least you know the answer to your own question vs. thinking "what if". i have been there, done that, and in the end rejection makes you stronger and defines you even better! my best advice: ask him out on a nice date and get to know him. if things work so be it, if not it was not meant to be.

Answer 3

Hi, Listen your situation is not so bad! It is much much worse for a guy. I was a shy teen who was madly in love with this girl and i was so afraid of being rejected, I never told her!! I lost her, she was the love of my life.

10 years late, We are still in touch, we are good friends, she got married a couple of years ago and I still hate my self for not telling her. Listen, some time opportunities knock once in a life time, do not let your fear kill your chance like it did with me. I realy regret my shyness and fear to this day.

Being the female should make it easier, if he likes you or u feel he has feelings for you, why is he not asking u out? guys usually ask the girl out.

If he is an idiot like i am, then u can do it in a subtle manner. Next movie, clearly express your desire to see it and ask him if he wants to go. This is easy and he will not get any ideas if he rejects it and on the other side, if he mildly likes u, he sure will go, so it is also a good test.

Go ahead and try it.

Answer 4

well... what's the fear of heartache when.... by comparison, you might gain something so worth it that... it makes you think rejection isn't a fear at all?

just give it a go. ive been through alot of heartache... and i'm liking my best friend so much i think i feel the same as you. but now i know that he doesn't feel the same. so... in my opinion, knowing is better than dying with curiousity, and trying is better than not trying because, if you never try, you never know what's the possible potential between you guys. there's only one way, you gotta not fear rejection and be brave.

2 options:
1) flirt with him subtly, such as more friendly gestures, touch his arm for a moment and pull away... or hold his gaze longer when talking to him.

watch his reaction. if he's positive, but still shy, ask him out.
but if you are not sure cuz some boys arent clear with body language, ...


2) ask him out by face to face or letter.

remember, the key thing is to try . and if he's not the fish for you, well... there's plenty of others.

good luck!

Answer 5

The World Is Full Of Heart Break,U Better Ask Him Before Some Other Lil Hottie Is Sportin Around Ur Crush....LOL..

Answer 6

First of all, never be afraid of rejection, as hard as it may be. I know how this feels, considering that i've been in this situation twice. I think that you should go with your heart on this one. Try giving him subtle hints that you like him and see if he does anything back. Also, try to figure out if he likes anyone else. If he doesn't like anyone else and he notices you, then just go for it and ask him out. And just know that even if he says no, don't let it ruin your life, because maybe if he decides he likes you later on, he'll know that you like him too.

Answer 7

I got news for you sister, EVERYONE is afraid of rejection, you are by no means unique.

And believe it or not, this is nothing... Wait until you have committed you whole existence to another person, love them in a way that you simply cannot comprehend at fifteen... and you lay there at night and pray to God that she doesn't get sick or a car accident because her mere presence is the force that makes your heart beat and you lungs breathe.

Love is a gamble... and the more deeply you love, the greater the risk.

Answer 8

Wow i'm in like the EXACT same situation! i'm so scared of rejection! and i've been rejected a lot. u'll just have 2 take a chance and ask him. thats what i usually do. if he says no it will hurt A LOT. but in time u will forget and if u think he likes u thats an even better reason 2 take a chance.

Answer 9

What you should do:

1. Stop being so melodramatic. You are 15 years old. Your life will not be over if this boy doesn't like you. It will be okay. I promise. I mean sure you will be very upset for a while, but you'll get over it. If not, you'll get used to it and move on. It may not seem like it, but you will.

2. Go with your gut. If you really love this boy, you will swallow your fear and ask him out.

Answer 10

Wow, how dramatically your world would change. Yes, it would probably feel like that for awhile, but believe me, you would get over it and go on. Just ask him, guys are afraid of rejection too.

Answer 11

teens are sooo dramatic. lol everyone gets rejected at least once in their life time. chances are, they'll be rejected more than that. it's a part of life and if you can't face that, then you're not really living. Everyone has to take risks and chances because if you don't, you'll always wonder "what if?"