Can my childhood abuse problem be related to the problems I'm facing in my marriage in any way???

Answer 1

It absolutely can. I would consider entering therapy, and finding a therapist who specializes in the treatment of trauma.

When someone has experienced a lot of trauma, their central nervous system is constantly activated. It can be difficult to regulate emotions, and they may feel anxious and unsafe much of the time.

There are various techniques that a trauma specialist can use to help discharge some of that stored traumatic energy (that lives in the body). Such techniques include EMDR http://www.emdr.com/q&a.htm and Somatic Experiencing http://www.traumahealing.com/registry.html

Good luck. You deserve help and support.

Answer 2

Childhood abuse is clearly a problem and has had ill effects on many people. Many mental health professionals would recommend that most people should be in therapy of some kind, and childhood abuse could certainly have repercussions in future marital relationships. However, none of us had
perfect childhoods and all of us must face the turmoils life throws at us . The sooner we take responsibility for our here and now the sooner we will have pride in who we are now. We cannot blame our parents forever for our problems.

Answer 3

I am not a psychotherapist - But I once read a book that said, basically, that the answer to your question is very likely "Yes."
It said it's basically a psychological truism that there are six people in any marriage:
* him
* her
* his 2 parents (ie all the unconscious assumptions about a relationship that he grew up with, based on how his parents acted)
* her 2 parents (all the unconscious assumptions that she grew up with, based on how her parents acted)

And I do know that a lot of the thing that talk psychotherapy does, is to help you untangle your unconscious assumptions from reality, so you can try to see with clearer eyes and react to what's really happening, not just react based on the unconscious assumptions from your past. (Everybody has their own illogical assumptions even if they had a good childhood. A person who was abused is apt to have lots more issues.)

personally I think individual talk therapy is good
am not a fan of couples therapy
maybe because have had one great and brilliant individual therapist (a Ph.D. psychologist trained in psychoanalysis) and several pretty good ones (master's degree psychologist who did more a cognitive-behavioral thing and a smart MSW or CSW)
and the only couples therapist I ever went to with my then sweetie was just lousy (she was a CSW I think)
i think the individual stuff can help.

they all deal with trauma, obviously, by definition that is what they do. that other lady is selling a particular approach. but to me, whether they're talented and have a rapport with you seems to me more important than the particular approach they have -

best of luck to you.

Answer 4

Yes childhood abuse can impact your marriage, but you don't say what the problem is. And people need to try to let the bad childhood go, I know its hard, but the past is over. We need to live in the moment and try to find ways to have a happier future.

Answer 5

Yes they can! If they are unresolved issues. Woman that were sexually abused as a child can even experience severe pain during sexual intercourse. If these are a problem in your life now, it would be helpful to see a therapist and talk through these issues that are rearing their ugly head in your mind. Therapy does work, I don't know where I would be at if I didin't have my therapist to talk to about the sexual abuse I went through as a child. I wish you the best! Hugs! Von

Answer 6

absolutely...unresolved issues don't just go away. if you bury problems or issues alive they eventually do come back to haunt you. there may even be issues you are not fully aware of that are affecting your marriage. find someone you can trust whether its a therapist or a minister and work your way through the past. i've been there and its a hard road. good luck to you.

Answer 7

i'm sorry with reference to the circumstances you and your husband went via. i actually am not a bodily affectionate individual, yet have found out to be delicate adequate with my acquaintances to be so by way of fact they are outwardly affectionate. i think of prevalent you should write your self a be conscious to remind you something you like or love approximately your husband. it ought to be something great or little. think of roughly all of it day and once you spot your husband after artwork i prefer you to think of roughly what it is which you wrote till now and then attempt to hug him. as quickly as you are able to hug him effortlessly, flow onto kissing him each and every time you think of of how particular he's. permit your husband understand which you're doing this as a fashion to open your self extra to him that way he can help you. once you are able to hug or kiss him 'in simple terms reason', then you definately 2 can artwork on being sexually intimate without stumbles. I additionally advise you 2 see a counselor who'll have the means to assist the two certainly one of you handle the toll verbal abuse has taken on you 2 in my opinion and as a pair. I extremely have self belief that on the grounds which you extremely need to attempt and alter, you are able to bypass it, in spite of if it is going to require the two you and he to step out of your convenience zones so be warned. good success.

Answer 8

You don't give many details, so it's hard to answer, but it definitely could be related! It may be a cliche to blame future problems on past ones, but things that happen when we're young can definitely carry into the future. If you give more details, maybe we can help you more. :O)

Answer 9

yes. often times victims of abuse as a child can feel intimidated during marriage.

Answer 10

Yes, it definately can have an effect on your marriage.