My friend got pregnent at 13 and i was wonderin' should i still be her friend?
2006-10-08 12:07:36 · 55 answers · asked by what you lookin' at 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
as long as you like her.....so she made some bad mistakes when she was younger.... she may be diffferent
2006-10-08 12:08:29 · answer #1 · answered by Meow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not? She made a mistake. Is she a good person? Is she a good friend? If she is then I suggest you be there for her because she probably needs friends more now than ever.
Do you set conditions on your frienships? People must do what you think is right and if they screw up then they are no longer worthy? I hope that isn't the case. Otherwise, she is better off not having you as a friend.
Frienship is about accepting someone as they are and not placing conditions on it. It is about knowing your friends are not perfect and they are likely to screw up at some point. We are all human. We make mistakes. Maybe your friend did something you don't approve of but if you really care about her you will not just abandon her. If you do then you are not a real friend to begin with. And I hope you never make a big mistake because you will probably find yourself all alone.
2006-10-08 12:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were really her friend, you would not have to ask this question. True friends stick together through thick and thin. Yes, she made a mistake but it doesn't make her a bad person. She is going to need all the friends that she can get. One of my best friend's daughter got pregnant (at 13) 2 years ago, most of her friends turned of their backs on her and she began to feel really bad about herself. Luckily for her she had true friends in my two daughters (ages 13 & 15 at the time). They went over to sit with her and talk. She later went to the same high school as my daughter and my daughter would get up early to go over and help her get herself and the baby ready in the morning, so that she didn't feel so overwhelmed (her mother had to be at work early in the morning and couldn't always help her). Well, today she is doing great and her daughter is happy and healthy. Yes, she made a mistake but she didn't let it stop her and she will need true friends.
2006-10-08 16:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I had a baby at 13, his name is Billy,I unfortunatley did not have parents that cared about me so I turned to a man for an athority figure,and I got pregnant,I think I am a wonderful person and most likely your friend is too, it all depends on the whole situation,maybe she has parents who gave her too much freedom.Just because she is pregnant does not mean she would be a bad influence on you,of coarse your parents probably think differently,dont judge her.Being a friend means taking the good with the bad and instead of turning your back on her,be there for her,learn from her and dont make the same mistakes she did,dont follow in her footsteps.
2006-10-08 12:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by Heather and baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you should still be friends with her. She's probably lost enough friends already. Just because she made a choice that you don't agree with doesn't mean that you should break off the friendship. and it doesn't mean you have to make the same choices.
And like someone else said, offer to babysit sometimes to give her a break, she probably needs all the support she can get.
Remember that it's also ok for you to stay a kid though. Just because she had to grow up too fast, doesn't mean you do too. So keep going school dances and slumber parties, even if she can't do those things any more.
Also, just speaking from personal experience. I had twins when I was 19, and it wasn't that my friends ditched me, it was that we just grew apart. It was like we had nothing in common anymore. I had babies, and bills, and problems and stresses that they just could not understand.
2006-10-09 03:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? They need all the support they can get. It's very difficult when you get pregnant at a young age and she probably needs friends right now. So, don't judge her on her past, think about whether she's a good friend or not and base your decision on that. Just think about if you were in her situation and you had a baby at 13. Think about how scared you would be and think about how much you would need a friend.
2006-10-08 13:57:20 · answer #6 · answered by bluechicken818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the girl probably needs all the friends she can get right now. She made a mistake. I'm sure you've made some also. Just be sure that you are head strong and do not let peer pressure get the best of you. Be a good influence of you friend.
2006-10-08 12:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont see why not? are u 13 too? as long as you know what is right from wrong, you'll be alright, of course ur friendship is gonna change.....when i was 13 i had a friend who got pregnant and i stood by her, she eventually married the guy and had 5 more kids, we are now 36 and still best friends!
2006-10-08 12:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judge others as you would like to be judged. Do you consider her a bad person for having a child at 13? Then if so, don't be friends with her. If you don't agree with her choices, but she is a good girl, then be her friend, but don't follow in her footsteps.
2006-10-08 12:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by jerseymilo9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because she is going to need her best friend right now, but I hope you realize that being 13 there is no reason for you all to be having sex right now and I hope you dont follow her lead.
Just dont follow her example and learn from her mistakes.
2006-10-08 12:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by dindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea be her friend I have a best friend that got pregnant at 12 and again at 14 But that doesn't mean that I had to be like her or have sex at a young age!
2006-10-08 12:08:52 · answer #11 · answered by Tasha 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋