Relationships, are SO great in the beginning; it's like a honeymoon. Everything goes wonderfully, you get along well, you talk all night- everyday, want to be with each other all the time, can't get enough of one another......and then, it winds down? What exactly is this called? If it's not the end.....what is it? Boredom? Adaptation?
2006-10-08 12:02:58 · 21 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its a biological fact that when you fall in love certain chemicals area released in the brain. Call them the honeymoon chemicals if you like. But after a time these chemicals cease to be released and the infatuation gives way to contentment. You need to work a little harder from now on to keep the relationship interesting and fresh. It just requires some imagination and a little planning. This is the next phase in your relationship. It is much more solid and re-assuring than the falling in love phase. It is natural and should accepted as the norm. People who expect all relationships to be like they are at the beginning will never find contentment.
2006-10-08 12:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by goodnickfor50 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not a bad thing, unless he is not treating you right. Guys get into a "comfort zone" and aren't trying to win you over, since he feels he already has. You can keep him on his toes when you want that feeling back....Just don't answer his calls for a day or two and say you were really busy. That will rev up his engine. Or spend some time with your friends and do things you used to do before you met him. You both had separate lives before you met and now he feels comfortable enough to go back to his life. It doesn't mean he doen't like you any less, just means he trusts you and doesn't need to hear from you every second of the day. This is a good thing! Don't worry about it... Do just like I said and have your own life.
2006-10-08 19:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree that you probably need to spice it up a bit. For me relationships tend to wind down after some time. It could be boredom or just getting really comfortable with one another. Talk to your partner and explain how you feel. Communication with one another can help alot.
2006-10-08 19:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband are going through the same situation right now and I am reading a book and it tell you that this time in your life, you are being comfortable and secure. It also says that when you have feel "too comfortable" in your marriage, you have to step back and take a reality check and spice things up a bit. Go on a second honeymoon and rekindle that romance.
2006-10-08 19:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Candy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much attention and too much time being spent together. My fiance left town at least 1 week out of each month maybe longer the whole time we were dating. and we still fall in love with each other all over again every time i see him when we get home!! Relationships go stale when you spend all of your free time together, give each other some breathing room. For a long time he would keep me away and I would long to see him and when I finally did I was feverish with anticipation to jump on his D***!!! LOL I love him to death and I still have that feeling every night and he still keeps me on a strict diet of 5 days a week!!!
2006-10-08 19:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by EriksSweetheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship gets into a routine. Its not as exciting as it was at first,,,getting to know each other and such. Spice it up a little by doing something different together. Its not really a bad thing to get to that point. It means you both know each other well and are comfortable with each other.
2006-10-08 19:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boredom.
2006-10-08 19:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its called growing into habits. Try something new together. Remember the perfect relationship starts by your other being your best friend.
All new things are exciting and fun. Its being creative occasionally that keeps the relationship growing.
2006-10-08 19:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you get used to each other, it just isn't exciting anymore, unless you have a true connection and you guys still are together most of the time regardless of how you feel.
2006-10-08 19:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by Hicktown girl66 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just the two of you getting more used to eachother. It means you need to do something to spice it up a little!!
2006-10-08 19:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by Life Sucks Get A Helmet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋