I have been married for 32 years and happily married. I just don't understand why sooooo many marriages go to divorce court--I am born of the 50's not a generation where i feel i must stay in a marriage just because I must--I am not old fashion,as you would typically imagine--but when I look at my husband and my children and grand children I can't concieve why anyone would consider breaking up a marriage or family-- Are people so mindless when they get married? Am i so critical? if i imagine being with out my husband,children and grand children / it causes me pain just to imagine it. Anyhow--isn't keeping a marriage together / and sacrad the way GOD wants it? In for love and out without love
2006-10-08 11:55:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Congratulations on being married for 32 years, your far from critical. Your just as confused as I am, as to why people marry and then give up on the marriage, when things get a bit tough.
My hubby and I have been married for 22 years, and apparently even that is a record, or so we have been told. We are proud of the fact we have been married for so long. We believe marriage is sacred too.
I do believe that most problems comes back to communication and honesty between each other, about happening with in the relationship.
Sure every marriage has it problems, such as financial problems, children, illness and much more. We have have had more than our share of problems.
We have friends who have divorced or in the process of divorcing, and have admitted that they did not communicate enough or honest with each other.
Sadly there is some marriages that will never work, despite the best efforts to keep things together. And I feel so sad for the children, as some time they are used as pawns, between the rivalling parents. I also feel for the grandparents and the parent who lose contact with their children/grandchildren because of the family break up.
When we are invited to a wedding and asked to fill in the bridal book, I always put in "Always communicate with each other. Never let the sun set on an argument. Be united as parents when it come to children, (if you must disagree with each other, about discipline, never in front of the children)
Life is never easy, but marriage is harder and we have to work at it, to keep the flame going.
2006-10-08 12:44:01 · answer #1 · answered by Georgie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I agree with you that people should be in it for the long haul. Saying that I have been divorced once. We were together 7 years and married 6, I was young. Meet him at age 18 married him at age 19, he was 25 when we met and 26 when we married. I thought everything was going good. We wanted to wait until after we were married 5 years to have children, 5 years came and went. Well I'm happy to say we did not have any children together. Happy because, after 6 years of marriage, he came home from work one day and said " I don't want to be married anymore". I tried talking to him, saying whats wrong, can't things be talked out or worked on, but he had his mind made up. There was nothing I could do, he left and we divorced. So there are some cases that are out of peoples hands, like this one. But now I'm happy now, with someone that I was friends with for 10 years before we started dating. We have now been together 5 years and have a wonderful 3 year son together. I do think that people should take the commitment more seriously, and think things through.
2006-10-08 12:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by magnolia_76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats on 32 years
i have been married 5 and together for 7 and i am where i want to be, i also love my husband very much and couldn't see life without him ..
to find TRUE love is unbelievable and rare moment for some. . cherish what you have and don't forget to say i love you everyday and never go to bed angry
2006-10-08 12:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Lisa♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being critical, although generation does have something to do with it. Also, as generations progress, so does lack of religion, compared to the 50's.
As far as I am concerned, the future generations are screwed!!
2006-10-08 12:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by jerseymilo9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your lucky you married for the RIGHT reasons. Too any people marry for the wrong resons.
Still single at 44, never going marry for the wrong reasons!
2006-10-08 12:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not critical and I am very happy for you hon. In fact it is good marriages and good relationships like yours that gives hope to us all. Good for you! You should see me, reading your question just put the biggest smile on my face...thanks for sharing!
2006-10-08 12:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you hun! I hope your children and grandchildren learn what real love is from you! Hugs! Von
2006-10-08 13:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by bry7josh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be a good person and good wife.
But for every good wife, there are a thousand wifes out there, who do nothing but quarrel, whine, bickering at every possible moment.
That's why marriage is such a risky proposition.
Congrats to you
2006-10-08 12:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by OMaha999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is "ditto"! And congrats on 32 years.
2006-10-08 12:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other people don't have your husband and children/grandchildren and are not you.
2006-10-08 12:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by picopico 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋