I want to try my best to build a relationship with this girl by visiting her etc. etc. hanging out with her at lunch and all that. I'm planning on spending a good 2 months on trying to make her a best friend and then finally asking her out on a date so it feels more comfortable. Is this a better method than doing it on the spot?
The only thing that concerns me is if someone else asked her out within that time frame. She is only a sophomore right now and school started August. She doesn't know too many guys so that's kinda relieiving to me honestly. But I don't know what to do.
2006-10-08 11:48:53 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be carefull, if you leave it too long than the feelings she has for you might turn into friendship, and then it will feel like for her dating her brother, and it wont work. Ask her out and get to know her like that, just date, then the feelings wont get confused. Good luck
2006-10-08 11:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by lucy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your approach is perfect, if you want to be the one to offer her a shoulder to cry on, every time some other guy dumps her.
You need to make a move. That doesn't mean say, "You think you might want to go out with me sometime?" That will only make her nervous, and practically guarantees a rejection.
Instead, have a definite plan. If it's a movie, tell her which movie, and when and where you would like to go see it. Don't ask for anything that can't be answered with a simple yes or no, because that forces her to think too much.
If she wants to go out with you, but she has a problem with the particular plan you had in mind, for instance, if she's already seen that movie, I think she will make that clear to you.
2006-10-08 19:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by Allen Montgomery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from experiance.... dont wait for her to be ur best friend cuz when shes your best friend thats all shes gonna think of you as and youll be stuuck in the best friend zone. just get to know her and find out what she likes to do and then ask her out.
2006-10-08 18:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by adviceexpertnikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're obviously not thinking clearly. if you want to date a girl, do not become her "best friend". girls don't want to kiss their friends. we don't want to date our friends, because we don't want to lose our friends due to a break-up.
if you want to date her, ask her out. don't wait. don't become her chum.
2006-10-08 18:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋