My boyfriend wants us to get married and I would love to marry him, in fact nothing would make me happier, but I dont think we're ready. He is the love of my life and a really good person in all areas, like my best friend.(guy friend) but he had alot of things going on in his life outside of our relationship and I have things going on with me. We are deeply in love and I know that but I think that we should wait to make such a big commitment to eachother but I dont know how to tell him that I love him with all my heart but I dont think we should get married right now. Please help me with what I should do.
I think it would be good for us to be engaged but to wait to actually get married but I dont want to put any more stress on either of us than I have to.
2006-10-08 11:20:53 · 16 answers · asked by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest with him and explain it to him. As long as you still want to be with him, I dont see any problem. You provided a great reason why you dont want to get married and you still love him, so just talk to him about it. If he loves you as mush as you do him, I dont see any problems why he wouldnt understand. That is a big step and both individuals need to be ready. Good Luck
2006-10-08 11:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by kevin T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing for you to do is to take him out to dinner and talk to him and let him know you want to be married to him just not right now and you do not want to go through the stress of an engagement right now either,(planning the day of the marriage can be very stressful) tell him there is no time frame for when, just that it eventually it will happen. Trust me, I am a guy that has been through this, and good communication is a must in a relationship.
2006-10-08 11:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry if your not fully ready for the commitment the level of trust you need in eachother and if your heart and your head and soul aren't in synic either will your marriage cause you'll always be blaming yourself or asking what if i waited.
Most marriages end in the first yr because they were either pressured bye family friends.
having kids first.
only marringing so sex is accepted. and bad if not.
um too you only marry cause your afraid of lossing the guy or gal if they keep saying i will leave if you don't.
if your not ready then i would go with your feeling and tell him yes you'd love to marry him but if he wants to respect you and truly loves you he'd wait for as long as you are ready .
i'm guessing your still young there is plenty of fish on the sea, but you obvisouly love the person , but don't feel you can't marry him down the road so you have a long engagment or tell him that you'd rather at the moment hav e a promise ring that when your ready he will be the one. stay in the moment and live for today but love for always.
good luck
2006-10-08 11:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you kind of have your head on straight. Man, marriage is such a huge responsibility and a lot of people don't take it serious enough. Major big commitment there. Life as you once knew would be over and you had better have done all the "fun" things you ever wanted to do. Keep your head on straight and don't consider marriage unless YOU are absolutely ready for it.
2006-10-08 11:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by Bikerbutt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage in itself is a very stressful event. Just planning a wedding can create havoc on 2 people. If you honestly feel you aren't ready, then ask for a long engagement (so you can plan and save up for the event). Try living together for a while first until all the other stuff is dealt with. Of course, if you wait for everything else to clear up...you could end up waiting forever.
2006-10-08 11:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by colleenjohn_vano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats up, while you're actually not waiting hun, then tell him! If he truly loves you Unconditionally, he will wait. i'm 18 and function dated a guy for one 365 days. we can get engaged while i'm out of high school and then get married some years after that. He could have already popped the question yet I asked him to attend til i replaced into out of high school. actual love waits see? sixteen is quite youthful, wait a minimum of a pair years ok? take care.
2016-10-15 23:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by mctaggart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love and marriages don't co-exist.soon after marriges, love withers away.no animal on this earth is monogamous,not even human beings, by their intrinsic nature.ideally marriges are based on monogamy,which proves suffocating after sometime.never go into a marriage.after sometime even the prince of your dreams will turn into a frog.you can not eat, even your most favourite dish, all the times.same is the case with sex.your prince charming or your dream girl loses charm to you at some point of time.have good relations without any legal or social bondage. first of all concentrate on being financially self reliant.use contraceptives and most important is get your partner checked AIDS free.never ever take any chance. find instant AIDS checking kit from somewhere.SEX without AIDS check, even a single encounter may prove fatal.hoh do you like my suggestions, please tell me on sufiesidhi@yahoo.com
2006-10-08 11:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by sufiesidhi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu already abswered your own question. If you are to have honesty in your relationship... you need to tell him how you feel...
If there are lots of things going on around both of you , then there should be no hurry to marry... I think you both should resolve all these things before you through marriage into the mix.
If your love is as strong as you say.. it can withstand anything like honesty......
2006-10-08 11:26:24 · answer #8 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is more to the story than you are telling but I am with you..........you need to wait. Get engaged and see what happens.
2006-10-08 11:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you both have different busy, careers which you both want to pursue. tell him that you love him from the bottom of your heart. when your lives aren't so busy and hetic, then might be a good time to get married.
2006-10-08 11:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by rebel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋