So I broke up with him like 4 years ago. Except we kept meeting up with each other. I asked him where was this going and he said we were just friends...so I said ok well I can't keep meeting up like this because I was starting to fall in love with him again. The problem is that I still can't get over him. He was my first boyfriend and the thing is I really saw a future with him. We ended because of religious differences. He said I will always be a part of his heart but that I would meet someone in university. Why can't I get over him?
2006-10-08 11:12:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So I guess I am not over him, but then how do you let go? I know that it's the best for him and he wants the best for me as he doesn't want me to give up my faith. But it hurts because I want to see him again. I still love him :(
2006-10-08 11:35:35 · update #1
Because he was your first love and with it comes a lot of fantasies.Stop meeting with him. Religious differences are strong reasons not to get together.go ahead and meet someone else. there are a lot of fish in the sea if you are young.
2006-10-08 11:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a alot of reasons. It took me a long time to get over my ex. We were dating for a long time he was my first boyfriend. And I thought he was this sweet guy then I went to his house one day and he had got arrested and went to prison for 23 years. It threw me off guard. I still loved him and I knew I could never have him the only thing that did it for me was I found out how much of a jerk he really was. And I just got angry. I am still angry 4 years later and the worst part is I still love him. I think that time and other relationshios help. and also just getting away from them cuz when you keep seeing them it just makes it worse that is what I think. Try not seeing him if unless you just run into him.I hope you work everything out
2006-10-08 11:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way with one of my ex's, but some point you just have to it's the force of nature. even thought it's against all odds. but you'll have to pick yourself up and dust yourself off and move on let your heart love and feel again.
It's hard when you have history, and a connection that you don't tend to feel with others. I'm guessing he was your first love and your first sex partner then yes you are going to always feel apart of him but don't let that stop you from finding someone who has some of those qualities and much more.
So what you need to do is either move yourself from the places that you too use to go or would run into him. that or have a photo burning party that is a way to discard your past fling and a way of moving on just be careful so you don't start a fire.
it's like freeing yourself from him. but keeping apart of you too.
good luck
2006-10-08 11:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u need to get over him, firstly give up any delusions of your problems being resolved and reuniting with him...they aren't helping you. i find that people cant get over their ex's because they all fantasies of them getting back together and living happily ever after. You have to break down the way u feel and felt about him into small parts and really understand them. Finally, u have to understand that u can have these feelings for somone else oneday...
2006-10-08 11:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he was your first love he will always have a place in your heart. You might want to just stop "meeting up" with him. If he calls, tell him you already have plans. Don't be available for him.
2006-10-08 11:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im still not over my ex and its been four yrs,ive just come to accept it,like as if i lost a limb or something,you cant get over him because you love him and love has a power all its own,for me there is absolutely no reason why i should still love my ex she has been brutal and cold slept with everyone in my small town neglected the kids etc; but i do still love her,its irrational and maybe a little sick,lol...oh well
2006-10-08 11:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by seth s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When me and my first boyfriend broke up, it was really hard on me because we had been really happy together, but what you have to do is give yourself some space. Flirt around with other guys, hang out with your girlfriends and eventually you'll realize that if you really care about yourself, you'll let yourself move on. If he cares about you, then he'll come back. If he doesn't then you will definetly find someone better.
2006-10-08 11:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by pbc132 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in ur shoe before
i had to let go 'it was the hardest thing to do because we ll talk all the time i thought she was the one for me
but finally i saw that this is not for me i need to break free from all this
and i finally did
and i stop all contact with her
but honesty i feel free and sooo happy
i must admit i do think of her from time to time
but overall i prefer no contact with her
its like a yo yo effect if we stood in contact
2006-10-09 07:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is your first love. That is the most difficult.
I had to marry mine, and we still ended in divorce after 10 yrs.
2006-10-08 11:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took me a long time to get over my ex too. Try not to have contact with him, and keep yourself busy with other friends.
2006-10-08 11:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by anne b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋