Our 1 eyar old just started daycare about 3 weeks ago. Since starting, he has been acting strange. We have also noticed rashes around his private parts, but the daycare people say its just a diaper rash. He gets very excited when you are about to change his diaper. He makes odd cooing sounds, only when his diaper is being changed. And he plays with his private parts when ever he gets the chance. He has learned to take his diaper off, just so he can play with his private parts.This may be just a phase, but something just doesnt seem right to me. He has become very touchy-feeling about diaper changes. When changing his diaper, he smiles, coos, and rubs his hand up and down your arm. He used to hate diaper changes, and now he seems to like them too much. Should i be concerned?
2006-10-08 11:05:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First off...calm down..if you are THAT concerned about it.. spend less time on yahoo and take the child to the doctor.. and your baby may be entering the phallic stage...when their genitals are their main focus..some babies even masterbate..and it's not becuase they are being touched or molested...It is just a part of development..
But I would definetely take my child to the pediatrician to see if there is an underlying problem, but wouldn't jump to conclusions right away...cause you will be going from day care-to day care if you do..
Good Luck!
2006-10-08 11:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by Tamara J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be very concerned also since his personality has changed so much. I do know though that a lot children that age are quite curious about their genitals and the rash "could" be from him touching himself...but you are mom and know him better than anyone and if you are thinking his daycare is doing harm, Take him out right away. I would also talk with his pediatrician, they will be able to tell you exactly what to look for and may even want to examine him. They can also tell if his rash is "diaper rash". Kudos to you for being a concerned mommy!
2006-10-08 18:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bruises or other injuries around his private parts could be a sign of abuse. Rashes often appear when a baby's situation changes, for example, if his diet changes, diaper brand, baby wipes, or ointment changes. He is probably more excited when he has his diaper changed because the daycare workers sing or talk to him while they change his diaper. Playing around with his privates and taking off his own diaper is normal for a one-year-old. If you are concerned about the center, how much did you check into it first? How do other parents feel about the center? Have you observed how the workers interact with the children for an extended period of time?
2006-10-08 18:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by Your Mom 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Hmm, doesn't sound to me like such a huge concern. Boys like to touch themselves in general and this seems to never change.
He may be happy to have it off, due to the daycare not changing him frequently enough. Probably feels really good having it off. Especially if he has a little rash.
I would address the rash issue to the daycare.
1 year olds will take thier diapers off.
It just all sounds quit natural, he is finding himself .
2006-10-11 01:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be rude about this but, if you have a gut feeling and you can't come up with right answer on your own then something is wrong. Don't ask questions take care of the problem. Step 1 get him out of day care, step 2 take him to a doctor to make sure the rash is not an STD ok. Step 3 never go against your gut feelings when it comes to your kids.
2006-10-08 21:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by valarie l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are concerned, and that is reason enough to pull him out of this daycare. Usually your instincts are right, and if not it won't hurt. If you are right and just convince, (or let others convince you) that you are overreacting you would never forgive yourself! I don't know what signs to look for, maybe talk to other parents at the daycare. Ask your doc if it is a diaper rash for sure. But follow your instincts!
2006-10-08 23:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by butterfliesbrown 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrat on noticing small changes. The best thing for you to do is go to a doctor, he will be able to notice things we don't know about.
From the sounds of it, it doesn't seem all that odd. The rash is common, so isn't the touching. I would call the police if I noticed blood in the daiper or blood in the poop. Without those kind of signs go to the doctor he is trained to handle these matters.
Call your police depart and check if anyone else is complainting.
Good luck.
2006-10-08 18:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by tcmoosey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be concerned... The problem is you do not have any proof and it is not good to make allegations without having proof. What you can do is take him to the doctors and maybe there is a way that they could find out. You also said that he has a rash, maybe they can find out what this rash is caused by..
I have a daughter and she is attending pre-K and she mentioned to me that a girl touched her personal. The problem is I do not know how to approach the teacher about it because my daughter does not talk very well and she does not give me a really good explanation. Well Good luck!!!!
2006-10-08 19:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Vicky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can take him to the ER and tell them everything there or make an appointment with the pediatrician. Seeing a pediatrician may be better because they know all about babies and their stages when in the ER they aren't too familiar. As soon as you think something is wrong with your child care provider, you remove your child immediately. It's better to be safe than sorry, you have the right to protect your child so protect him. Don't send him back until he see's the doctor.
2006-10-08 18:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by gyrl6 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter went through a phase similar to that when she began taking off her diaper and "exploring". It might just be a phase but definitely go with your gut on this one and check everything out to be sure!
2006-10-08 18:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by Kristi's Mom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋