one of my friends and i decided to update our relationship status as friends with benefits. he said it's not that he wasn't interested in dating me, but he wasn't interested in a serious relationship. myself having some bad feelings from my last serious relationship, i agreed. now that we've kissed and spent more time together i'm thinking to myself that i really like this. i like being with him and kissing him and i want more. i'm getting emotionally attached, which i know only sets me up for getting hurt, but i dont want to let go. i feel there must be something there, or am i just hoping with false faith? what should i do?
2006-10-08 10:59:51 · 10 answers · asked by EMonk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should look for a man who wants the same thing as you do. Because if this guy isn't interested in a serious relationship with you, and you're getting attached, you are going to get burned. Good luck!
2006-10-08 11:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is a past history between the two of you it is not a good idea to be f w/ bennies....for the same reason you said...emotionally involved. if you cant keep it at just friends with beneits id stop the relationship and leave it at just friends. and as far as letting go youre gonna have to decide whats more important. your feeling and not getting hurt or getting some d1ck
2006-10-08 11:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by san6153 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boat sank with your last relationship. You are holding tight to a life preserver and no one can blame you. But, you desperately need to let go and swim for something better, perhaps bigger, certainly more stable. After all, you could be in the water for a while. In fact you will be in the water until you find another boat.
Good Luck and Good Hunting from this end. I am old and married, but you sound like a snuggler. Damn to be young and single, you could share my boat.
2006-10-08 11:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somethimes it can be a plus if u both agree and it's a mutual thing and not letting your feelings get involved is the most difficult part. but u just set yourself up to get hurt....u may wanna back off a little and collect your thoughts....then again since yall are such good friends tell him and see what he says just say hypothetically if one of us was to start feelin the other how should we handle this u might be surprised at the outcome but don't expect to much GOOD LUCK.........
2006-10-08 11:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do what i dont have the courage to. Tell yourself and know that its just that friends with benefits. if its hurting you go back to just being his friend. it will hurt but at least your in his life. you dont really want to spoil a friendship do you? but if you think even a little that he feels the same as ask him if he wants more. be direct then you prevnt yourself getting hurt.
2006-10-08 11:08:36 · answer #5 · answered by susan d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. Friends with benefits is good in theory but difficult to practice without emotional involvement. At least for most people, and in my own personal experience.
2006-10-08 11:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Not if you want to keep the friendship. Someone always gets more attached and ends up getting hurt which usually ends the friendship.
2006-10-08 12:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's a very bad idea. friends with benefits only causes one-sided relationships. i think you should talk to your friend about having a serious relationship. if he isn't ready or, if you aren't, then i think you guys should back off.
2006-10-08 11:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by Kaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex changes everything . Keep it cool if you want to keep him as a friend. Besides there is nothing wrong with waiting until you're married to someone to have sex.
2006-10-08 11:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope ...someone always ends up with their little feelings hurt ....then youre just enemies with a past.......besides hes basically saying to you i want to be able to have sex with you without investing any time on a relationship.....is that what you want.
2006-10-08 11:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by funkyk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋