Should I tell my boyfriend that a guy at work is totally flirting with me? He is the jealous type so I don't want to worry him in vain but at the same time I don't want to hide it from him. What do you think I should do? Should I tell him or stay quiet about it as long as the flirting is harmless?
2006-10-08 10:54:50 · 17 answers · asked by JustAGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should tell him the truth and tell him that you love your boyfriend very much and only has feelings for him
2006-10-08 10:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would do as you yourself suggested, "stay quiet about it as long as the flirting is harmless." there's no sense in freaking him out if it's all harmless and you're not interested in the guy or responding. if you feel uncomfortable or threatened at some point, i would tell a supervisor, and also your boyfriend (if it feels better to talk about it).
really what it comes down to is you need to ask yourself what you would accomplish by telling your bf. if it's that you're uncomfortable about the flirter, do it. if it's just to make casual conversation, no need to rock the boat.
having said all that, if your bf is insanely jealous type, that can be a warning sign for other problems down the line (like being trapped in an controlling, unhealthy relationship, or abuse).
use your gut... sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. good luck, girl. =)
2006-10-08 18:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by melon_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try telling this other guy to stop flirting with you? Make it clear that it will cause problems for you in your relationship, or decide whether or not you like it. If your current boyfriend is the jealous type, telling him will likely end up with you being out of a job. Keep the drama to a minimum by handling things between you and the flirt, and leave the boyfriend out of it. You'd be telling him for two reasons...one) to make him jealous two) to ask him for intervention, for example, make the guy stop. That my dear is what drama is all about.
2006-10-08 18:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by MicksGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is harmless then of course don't tell him
the whole issue is only a problem if the flirting is starting to wear u thin. At that point, explain to the guy at work that u have boyfriend and that its nice he has an interest in you but you are not interested in him. If he still doesn't stop, then you need to tell your boyfriend.
2006-10-08 17:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like the guilty one here. If it's so harmless, why are you even asking this question? You sound very immature - a game player. It won't take you very far. Give your boyfriend a break - as in break up. Maybe he can find someone to trust.
2006-10-08 18:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by risa131313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bring it up to your boyfriend, and tell your co-worker to knock it off. It may seem harmless, but if it's putting you in an uncomfortable position, then it's a problem. He needs to stop.
2006-10-08 17:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by volleyball_1979 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i told my boyfriend that a guy was flirting with me at work and then he started showing up to check on me all the time. he even stayed a whole shift to watch me, 8 hours! i wish i didn't tell him cause even now, that i don't have that job anymore, he always reffers to that guy "i had the hots for". ugh. like I dated him or something.
2006-10-08 17:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by Bitterly Sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shhhhh.Why rock the boat?Do you really like the one you are with? The jealous types are most often trouble.Dont be afraid to change direction if you choose,,you are not married.
2006-10-08 17:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's harmless flirting enjoy it.
2006-10-08 18:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by pixiechick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on if u like the flirting or not .. if u like it and u are flirting back..then why tell .. u are wrong too ... but if u dont like it ..tell the guy to stop .... and if he doesn't then tell ur boyfriend...and maybe he can get him to stop
2006-10-08 17:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by lezbianflava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋