please helpi need some advice?

Question

just when i thought things could not get any worse they just did the dog has just eaten my essay i was working on which took me 2 hours to write and was not finished it had to be hand written my 13 year old daughter has decided to wreck her room in temper and my husband who i kicked out for something wont stop bugging me and banging on my door im trying to ignore it but hes driving me mad i have anothor problem i think which should be sorted out on tuesday but im about to have a nervous breakdown do i have one and fall apart or do i just carry on at this moment in time the breakdown seems a better option

my daughters calmed down and my husband has broken the gate in temper and is threatening to call the police if i wont let him in how could things get any worse

Answer 1

Ok please stay calm you have friends on here to share things with and now you have posted it is a problem halved and shared.
Not sure if you are in England or not but if you are it is now late so my advise is make yourself a hot cup of tea, tell your husband to go away you are going to bed and you will speak to him tommorow if he gets some sort of resolution ie speak to him tommorow he may go away.
daughter is most likey reacting to her dad banging on door, you being stressed and is crying for attention too. Go and see if she wants a cup of tea do not shout at her if she shouts go away leave her and let hersort it out in her head but you will need to have a chat with her about how she is feeling about her dad leaving she needs reasurance you love her.
The dog not a lot you can do about the dog however your essay is it completly destroyed?If it has to be in tommorow and you have no time to re write then take what you have in and prove the dog has done it.I had to do this once and tutor was ok once she had seen the evidence and gave me another day.
Run yourself a hot bath take your tea with you and have a good soak listen to some music and have a good nights sleep.
I would ignore the world and all its problems it is late and you need to switch off.
Tommorow is a better day with a clear rested head.

Answer 2

I can only help from a Christian perspective, so if that bothers you don't read on. Look up a New Testament (you are sure to have been offered one at school by the Gideons) and read verses 6 -7 in chapter 4 of Paul's letter to the Philippians. I am 85 and that passage has seen me through my life, including the untimely death of my father, then 5 years as a WW2 RAF Pilot (& 1 crash), the deaths of two loving wives and the nervous exhaustion of running a business on a shoestring.

Follow that advice and, as promised, it will give you a "peace surpassing understanding".

Answer 3

10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 it work for me

Answer 4

I often feel like that, your daughter is just a typical teenager, perhaps her Dad leaving has effected her and she is just venting her frustration out on you at the moment? Have a long relaxing bath, watch a film on the tv, anything to forget your troubles for a night. Start again tomorrow feeling more relaxed. Good luck.

Answer 5

Im a 13 yr old girl, i often get in tempers and throw stuff around my room, just leave her alone she'll get over it, turn your fone of so ur husband cant contact you and call in sick for work 2moz so u have the whole of 2moz to re-write the essay

Answer 6

i think you should not let your husband in at any cost to be honest. you and he need time apart. please don't let him back in until things have cooled down. I not surprised your child has wreck her room. its her way of saying that she is unhappy. please sit down and talk to her she need help. you all do. you need to get help. go to see your doctor and phone the police to log a complaint about your husband's behaviour. they wont arrest him but at least they will know what you are going through and give you advice. please talk to police woman. and as for your essay i bet your teacher will be very understanding if you explain that you have a family crisis and give you time to do another. i know this because i did a access course and had a very understanding teacher when i had problems ok. please give your child a great big hug they are suffering as well. you need support from each other. all the best for the fulture

Answer 7

You seem quite held back temper wise, why not let it all out and show your daughter and husband that you are human too. Just fill your lungs and SCREAM! it's funny how there is silence afterwards!

Hang in there, they are just piling all there problems on you cos they assume your shoulders can take it, after all you don't seem to shout as loud as them.

May be it's time to show them what you can really be like...eh?

Answer 8

I know the feeling of being overwhelmed .Usually I scream one time for ever one to disappear or they will be sorry I need a little down time ,man you should see my bunch moving around hubby will leave a while kids will go to the park ,then I set and cry .Im so sorry I do know that feeling im there myself p.m.s.bad.good luck

Answer 9

Wow. Dogs really do eat homework?

I agree. Take a break. Lock yourself in the bathroom and take a long relaxing bath and then take it one problem at a time.

Answer 10

well i'm really sorry about al this..........its just part of being a mom(lol)anywho......... i think you should take your paper and go to a quiet place where you can concentrate......try to get it done. as for your daughter........well she's a teenager....let her throw those fits occasionally.....tell your hubby to get off your butt or else you will call the cops or somethin'. just take a breath and carry on with life. who said it would be easy? hope it works out for ya :)