what do you do when you love your boyfriend so much but know he isnt right for u,im with my boyfriend four years,i love him but my family and friends dont want me with him,he is very paranoid and jealous and always starts rows,i feel i have to choose him or my family and friends.
2006-10-08 10:47:54 · 15 answers · asked by hugskissesfun 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go with him. He needs you.
2006-10-08 10:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by NonePlusTwo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your family and friends. They may know things you don't know and see things you don't see. Love is blind and sometimes that can hinder you when making your decision. They love you and only want what is right for you. If you don't listen to them you may be looking at years of pain and heartache. You said it yourself that he is all wrong for you. Cut it off sooner rather than later. The longer you wait, the harder it will be on you. If he truly is all wrong for you, don't delay the inevitable. If you get married and or have kids it will make things that much harder when it finally hits the fan.
Last but not least, always listen to your mother. She knows what is right for you no matter how much you think she doesn't. This is the biggest lesson I have learned in my life.
If you do this now, no matter how much it hurts, I promise one day you will look back and be happy you did it. The right person is out there for you. Don't settle for less. You deserve better!
2006-10-08 18:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by denpita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old you are.. But if you are young.. Your family is probably only seeing the paranoid & jealously from your boyfriend. That is not good. Everyone has a certain extent to jealously, however when everyone around you is noticing it from your boyfriend that's not good. I would probably feel the same if that were my daughter in your situation. Your family only wants the best for you.. Sometimes an outsider (3rd party) can see what we can not see. They just want for you to be safe, happy & the best for you.
2006-10-08 17:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by Kammaka2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough one and it's a question only you will have the answer to. It's true what they say about love being blind, sometimes it takes someone on the outside to see what someone else is really like. What good motives would your friends and family have in splitting you up? Jealousy and paranoia are very unpleasant traits to have and they can destroy people, they may just worry about you because they care.
2006-10-08 17:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by pixiechick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you are so close you really "can't see the forest thru the tree's". If friends and family and even you know. it just isn't right, then it's time to move on. This will not get better - he won't change and it's all downhill for you. Find someone who makes you feel GOOD - makes you laugh - makes you happy. Not someone you have to babysit for to soothe his paranoia. Ugh!
2006-10-08 17:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by risa131313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is paranoid and jealous, and likes to argue, you do not need to be with him. Because he is going to get worst, and you do not need that, he is not going to be any fun, because it is going to always be one thing or another, that he will be fussing about! Too much drama! Listen to your family and friends, they see what you do not see. before it is too late. So do not waste any more time and energy on him!
2006-10-08 17:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family and friends don't like him he is no good. They are thinking of you and i am sure they would be very happy for you if you found the right guy. I would get rid of him.
2006-10-08 17:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he starts rows I am surprised your friend are still with you. They must care about you a lot. Doesn't your gut say something about him?I think you need to dump him and get away as fast as you can.
2006-10-08 17:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better listen people who are for you - they see more and have vision where you can be.
Drop the york . Move on
2006-10-08 17:50:48 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can ask any one but your self this answer and get the correct answer .follow your heart it is your life besides i think you know the answer already your just stalling
2006-10-08 17:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by malikstlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋