Parents - did your children turn out the way you imagined?

Question

I've been told over and over again by everyone in my family what a wonderful, well-behaved child I was. I never got in trouble, was always polite, never did anything wrong, etc. Maybe I'm in lala land but I keep imaging my kids will turn out exactly the same lol Just wondering if anyone else has felt this way - and how did it turn out? Do your kids end up behaving pretty much the way you did or no? (Don't worry I'm not going to 'not' love my kid if they aren't 100% like me, I'm not saying that! Of course I'll love my children no matter what)

Answer 1

All we can do as parents is teach our children good values and decision making skills and hope for the best. Make a list of everything you want to teach your child and incorporate it throughout the years.

Keep in mind the age of your child, too. My father was overprotective and didn't allow me to make my own decisions. One day he realized I was 18 and an adult and kicked me out without teaching me what I needed to learn. You are training your child how to be an adult by your example and the lessons you instill in them. As long as you keep that in mind you should be fine.

Of course, life always sends us some curve balls to keep us on our toes. Good luck!

Answer 2

Nope just the opposite and I love them for it just the same. When I had my oldest who is now almost 15 I was expecting her to like everything I did be the same type of kid as me. I thought we would do the pagents, she would be a cheerleader, play softball and volleyball all of the things I did and liked, but this kid hated pagents and would rather play in the mud with her cousins than put on a dress, plays basketball but refuses volleyball, did do softball though and says cheerleaders get on her nerves. She is a bigger tomboy than any girl I know instead of going shopping and buying all the neat clothes we go for jeans and t-shirts, and riding her horse is her favorite past time. She is the total oposite of me in all those areas but a much better person than I was at 15 because hse sees people for who they are and doesn't judge someone because they aren't in the cool group she is friends with everyone, her teachers all love her and she is a very respectful kid that is a straight A student planning on going to college to be an attorney to work with children and protect their rights. After her I realized all that matters is we teach them right from wrong and guide them through life and let them be the person they are destined to be and they will be happy but if try to force anything on them then they are going to become bitter and rebell.

Answer 3

Yes, I think mine did! She is alot like me, but also her own person, and she is maybe even better than what I imagined my child would be! She has had a few ups and downs in behavior, but I think because we spent alot of time with her and had clear expectations when she was little that it really set the stage for a successful future for her. We treated her most the time as we would any other adult, gave her responsibilities and choices to make, and now I would say she is a very successful young woman.

Answer 4

I was convinced my two boys were going to become reasonable, responsible adults even though their preacher father molested them and I ended up raising them alone. They were loved, appropriately disciplined, and well cared for. However, I must have had rose colored glasses on! One is a drunken doper, a woman beater, and smart-A*S*S miserable man; the other is a wiccan, whatever the h-e-l-l that is. Thank God for my daughter ( from the second husband). She's become a beautiful, intelligent Christian wife and mother and is the pride of my life! I wish you all the luck in the world.

Answer 5

We raised 3 kids. My husband had a daughter out of wedlock before we were married. Our 3 are all grown up now and they are all good kids but they all have their quirks too. I would never have guessed all of the stuff we went through with each of them too. There was a lot of drama, some unexpected twists and turns, lots of excitement, lots of fun times, lots of activity, weird interactions between each of them and us. We all have a good relationship with one another. My husband's oldest daughter who is now 32 has a relationship with us however he did not participate much in her life as she has always lived in a different state. The other 3 we pretty much are in communication with daily. All 4 of them are very strong independent individuals. They are now 17, 21, 25 and 32. To be honest with you I would never have guessed how each one was going to turn out when they were in school. I'll tell you, in many ways they are similar to us and in many ways they are as different as night and day from us and their siblings.

Answer 6

I know that kids were born with there own personalities and all i could do was teach them right from wrong and what i expected of them will out in public. We do the best we can unfortunately when your kids come into there own they choose who and what they want to be and as sad as it is it is not always what you had in mind for them

Answer 7

Sweetie, you have kids and you raise them to your best ability and when they are getting older and then they decide to go one way or the other. I have seen parents who were very strick and had kids that were really out of control and I have seen parents who were very lenient and the kids were down the center of the road. It can go either way, you can only direct and show examples of a good life then it is up to them as individuals.

Answer 8

My son who turned 25 years old, did turn out terrific. A-B student, went to college and went 1 year to get his Master's degree and started to work to earn money. He will be trying out to be a Police Officer and then go back for his Masters. He is a wonderful son, never got arrested, never did drugs, don't smoke or drink.

Answer 9

my kids will be good people or else as for me my mom always said that i would end up in prison well dodged that bullet

Answer 10

Not exactly what I pictured, but they have exceed my expectations.