where do i go to find out if a guy in the marines is married?......i've been dating this guy for three months and i just want to find out if he is really single because he's a drill instructor so his schedule is really tight but alot of people at my job which is on base say that drill instructors lie about being married becuase they don't see their wife as much or their wives cheat on them because they are on the base three months at a time so they go after females on the base how do i find outif he's married? is there someone that i could talk to on base or something? the females that i work with got in trouble with some wives and i don't want to get into that
2006-10-08 10:21:05 · 15 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
just ask him
2006-10-08 10:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by cnkbrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is my idea. Tell him that you really want to go to a military ball. We have a lot of those in the winter season. If he takes you, he is probably not married. If he makes up some excuse, you may want to dig deeper.
Don't call his Commander, unless you find out he is married. Those calls made me mad when I got them, and even if the guy isn't married, he may get in trouble for not handling his own business.
If you later find out that he is married, call his commander. We need to weed the garden to keep guys like this from training our troops.
That said, you will probably find out that this guy is not married, and that you had misplaced your trust. While we do have some bad apples in the service, most of them are outstanding men and make selfless husbands that could be prize catches for any gals.
2006-10-08 13:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by Big Blair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok a few things to check for..
1) does he only call you or be with you during certain times of the day?
2) have you met any of his family?
3) can you call his home phone?
4) when you guys are around other people does he tell them your his gf?
5) check his profile online there might just be a link to his wifes page
6) has he went on vacation with you? or been with you for a few days in a row.
read these questions and ask yourself if he has done any of them a guy who is single would tell people and not be afraid to be out in public with you and let you call him when ever. and not be scared to give you his home phone. just my thoughts but if he wont do those things there is a reason. he has a wife. and run away from him if he does.
2006-10-08 12:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by Suzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many ways to go about this. You have to be part private detective, though.
To start with the best thing is to just ask him. If it makes him mad, then he wasn't worth it to begin with.
Secondly, call his commander. Guaranteed to make him mad, and if he's been lying, possibly get his butt in trouble, at the least something the commander will not forget.
You know where he is from? Check records from the County he got married in. Usually Probate Court or the county recorder's office (depending where he is from) will have those records.
If you know where he lives, check it out. Look in the phone book, get the adress and scope it out.
2006-10-08 10:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by Frogface53 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him stop wasting your time and his. And the last thing you want to do is call his CO. First his CO is not required to provide you with any information since you are not an immediate family member.
Second, if you call his CO and the DI is single and discovers you are checking up on him...what do you think he'll do?
And as for the people who say DIs lie about being single...I wonder how many of them have lied about being single.
2006-10-08 10:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by iraq51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shy girl just ask him then go with your gut feelings....if hes married get the hell out of dodge and dont look back...asking around aint a good idea ..because if he is..wife finds out there maybe trouble all around...good luck..oh by the way not all drill instructors lie...
2006-10-08 11:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by little_outlaw_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you can spend the weekend at his place because your having some plumbing work done at yours. If he says no....well, you know the rest of the story..
2006-10-08 16:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by ftgokie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to check on him online. Or ask him where he lives & see if you can investigate about who lives at that house.
As for the stupid people who answered your question with "ask him"!!!! I would only say DUH!!! I'm sure you have already "asked him" that's not the issue! It's how true his answer is the problem!
2006-10-08 11:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by giggsmania 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to date a guy you simply don't trust?
2006-10-08 10:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by pixiechick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him, its pretty simple. If you mistrust him that much then I certainly wouldn't be wasting my precious time with him.
2006-10-08 10:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask his commander or who ever is over him. mostly you have to trust him at his word
2006-10-08 10:29:49 · answer #11 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋