My ex bf and I have been living together for the past four months and have been broken up for year and a half. Even though we shouldn't, we still have sex because I thought we were both single. He met a girl who lives across the country on the internet in August and they are a "couple". They met for the first time this weekend, he proposed to her, and I'm assuming they had sex also. I just found out about their relationship. Last week I was diagnosed with an STD. I highly doubt he had protected sex with her. When I told him I had an STD earlier this week he said he knew because he had it, but didn't want to tell me. Anyway, I want to tell her that he has been having sex with me regularly throughout their whole relationship. He refuses to tell her because "she doesn't deserve to be hurt"(like I do). Would it be wrong of me to tell her, ESPECIALLY since he has an STD? I know he'll hate me if I tell, but I already hate him for giving me an STD and lying.
2006-10-08 10:19:37 · 16 answers · asked by Ci Ci 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to clarify a few things... He is the only sexual partner I have had so I wasn't having random sex or being a hoe.... obviously he can't say the same. He knew he had the STD over a year before he broke up with me and we were together for 5 years.
2006-10-08 10:47:29 · update #1
i think you should tell that girl that he has STD cause he could give it to her too just like he gave it to you. good luck ! =]
2006-10-08 10:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's non of your business and you should just stay out. You're upset because not only did you get an STD from the bastard, but he's found someone to be with, while you are left alone. And you're losing your sex buddy.
You shouldnt have been sleeping with him, especially since you are both having random sex. That's nasty. You learn from you mistakes, and mistake learned, don't be a hoe. One decision you made was not to be w/ this person - and him not telling you about something serious is deceiving, but he's not your boyfriend, u have no commitment - don't just give yourself away like that, respect yourself.
Don't be hurt and bitter he's moved on. If his new gf knew you two were roomates, and use to date - i'm sure she questions if you two still have sex. And if she doesn't, she's just naive.
Move on with your life and let him out of yours. I'm sure his new gf won't be too impressed having you in the picture, and anything you tell her she probably won't care to hear.
--honey move on. His ex-gf he got the STD didn't call u up sunday morning with the bad news. His new gf isn't going to like anything you say to her, even if you compliment her dress. As much as she deserves to know, leave that up to him. Are you going to tell her his favorite color, and where he likes to go eat too?
I would hope he has balls to tell his new gf b/c that's important information, but that's not your job. And who's to say he hasn't told her or they haven't talk about it. But mature adults inform their partners, hence mature adults. If he really did propose to her, that's a very important decision. I don't think he's going to save that for their honeymoon "sweety guess what...." Move on sweet heart.
2006-10-08 17:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her. You have no loyalty to him after he gave you an std, and the fact that he's been having sex with you while getting involved with someone else. I believe it's a health risk anyway. The thruth shall set you free from him, and hopefully give the girl a real look at who he really is.
2006-10-08 17:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, especially because of the STD, some can be treated earlier on.
2006-10-08 17:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very touchy subject...I would leave an anonymous letter to her stating the ******* condition... That is really unfortunate that happend to you...But it's not the end of the world... A bit of advice for you, always protect yourself there is more out there than std's............Believe no-one....
2006-10-08 18:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her because she needs to know about the STD...
2006-10-08 17:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you should or shouldn't tell her but that girl has the right to know that she is with someone who has STD!!!
2006-10-08 17:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by FairyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he does not tell her within a couple of days you will. And make sure she knows, don't take his word for it that she knows.
And as for you...stop skanking around. Look what happens.
2006-10-08 17:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by aprilandroland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya you should tell her its REALLY important not to spread around STDs
2006-10-08 18:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by jeremistocking 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has every right to know he cheated. otherwise he'll just keep doing it to her and when she finds out for herself it will hurt a lot worse than if she would find out right away
2006-10-08 17:23:41 · answer #10 · answered by jessiPhS2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋