...to someone with whom you made eye contact with several times. Or would you find an excuse to talk to them? and if someone introduced himself/herself to you, how would you react? Thanks.
2006-10-08 10:13:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Good answers! Keep em coming! I want to know more about how you all would react if someone came up to you and introduced themselves. Would you rather they do that or start with something a little more casual like the weather or something you're wearing, doing, etc. ? Which would make you feel more comfortable?
2006-10-08 14:27:21 · update #1
First off, have you returned the eye contact with a smile? Give that a try if you haven't.
Try casual, commonplace small talk -- the weather is the classic -- rather than an introduction. If the small talk goes well enough, you can always take it to the next level by saying something like "Oh, by the way, my name's ____."
It's more comfortable for people to start with the impersonal. And I'm guessing that you have an ulterior motive here ;-), so leaving the names for a bit allows that to be a move towards, um, getting to know each other better....
Or depending on the circumstances, a compliment in passing can be ace.
Or is this at a party? If someone's making repeated eye contact with you at a party, what are you waiting for? Get in there with the introduction.
2006-10-08 10:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there is anything wrong with introducing yourself to someone. Especially if you have made eye contact "several" times. Just make sure that you can hold up the conversation.Have something to say. However, I do caution you that if it's a guy that you have been making the eye contact with that if he was into you then he would have already introduced himself with you. So if you do continue with the intro then know that he wasn't into you enough to introduce himself to you,he won't be into you enough to make you happy.
2006-10-08 17:27:12 · answer #2 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it would not be too forward, perhaps the other person is shy this may be the only chance. Go for it, you may miss out if you don't. The worst things that could happen is he has a girlfriend, a wife or he is gay. Go for it. And if a man came up to me, well, personally, that is the only way he will get my attention. I am not forward enough to make the first move. I wish i were, I have probably missed out on a few in my lifetime. God bless and good luck to you.
2006-10-08 17:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it would not be too foward to go up and introduce yourself to them, Especially if you have made eye contact them. That would be the only way I would feel comfortable to go up and introduce myself to them, If we have made eye contact otherwise I would feel to shy and would not do so.
I would feel Encouraged/delighted if someone made eye contact with me and came over and introduce them self to me, I would hope that they would want to afterwards come and meet me. Thank You.
2006-10-08 18:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - not at all, its all about HOW you do it. I am sure that most people would be fine if you just wandered over and said 'Hi I am XXX, whats your name?' = so long as you have something ready to say straight after without there being a long and embarrassing pause.
Try - 'I noticed you were drinking the same as me'. 'I noticed you look bored talking to that other person, or was I wrong?', ' I really like your coat!', 'what are you listening to' etc etc.
If you have some interesting questions to ask them straight after and you dont just bore them about yourself, this approach is fine!!
2006-10-08 17:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by zuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is forward but in today's society it is acceptable behavior. If your interested in this person the only way your going to know if the feelings are mutual is to walk up and introduce yourself.
2006-10-08 18:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I made eye contact with someone several times then yes I would interduce myself.No it`s not being too foward.If someone interduced theirself to me then that would be a plus.It shows me they have manners and is not imature nor does he or she keep to himself/herself.
2006-10-08 17:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just introduce yourself. It is done all of the time, and shows that you have good self esteem.
Go for it!!!
2006-10-08 17:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to at least talk with the person and feel them out. if they came up to me it would make things a lot easer. i would probley be suprized at first but see where it going to lead.
2006-10-08 18:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's how the world goes round! Have you ever met a business man? Here's my card.
2006-10-08 17:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by Summer V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋