I have a boyfriend, but there is this guy that lives by me and he wont take no for an answer! HE says that i lead him on when all i did was be his friend!!! Help me and tell me what i should do!
2006-10-08 10:02:16 · 24 answers · asked by lovely06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him until he listens.
And next time, try not to lead guys on.
2006-10-08 10:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clingy guys don't know better, and being too nice to him wont help his behavior. You'll just be encouraging it. suggest some soul searching. Being clingy can be gotten over. Simply by having more important things going in your life, so one doesn't have to depend on a female to feel as though they have worth. But there's a better way, everyone who is clingy, is clingy for a reason. You could be a true friend to him and try to help him. If he's too attached to you it'll be something that prohibits his growth, thus, he'll have to figure it out on his own. Tell him to find the feeling place of why he feels like he needs you, tell him to search his past. He'll find it if he really looks, everything happens for a reason, and that's not just a cliche. Everyone learns from past action and others in their surrounding environment, if he really looks, he will find it. What he must understand, make sure he knows this, is that it's not him. and it's not you. These feelings he's feeling are emotions and that alone. You may have been the stimulus for it be truly all the actions that took place to make him think so well of you, took place in his mind. You may have dialed the right combination for his safe, to make him love you, but truly he's the only one with the master key, he has to realize this and make sure that he knows, "this feeling is not real, this is what i'm imagining in my mind" because in reality all feelings get boring after a while, only a chemical bond as strong as what has been perceived can create those feelings. You never physically went up to him and deposited anything into his bloodstream to make him love you. He did everything himself. You just fit the equation. Help him through it, and you guys will be friends forever in the end. and if not, you'll be able to go your seperate ways, no remorse, no cling.
2006-10-08 10:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I have a boyfriend, but there is this guy that lives by me and he wont take no for an answer! HE says that i lead him on when all i did was be his friend!!! Help me and tell me what i should do!
2015-08-23 05:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by Trace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, i am so the Queen of doing this accidently!... I'm so glad i'm finally married and have a ring, so they don't get the wrong idea anymore!
Theres no nice way, hon. In fact, if they don' t get the hint, you have to start telling them honestly that you don't like them and WHY your'e not attracted to them. Plus... and your gonna hate this.. you may need to not hang out with them anymore until they find a girlfriend and have sufficiently substitued you so your not on their mind all the time.
Its not your fault that you are "the one" to them. Everyone has qualities that will attract people and it dosn't always go vice versa. I guess the friendship will have to dissolve for a time. Good luck!
2006-10-08 10:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy needs to understand that you are currently involved in a relationship and that you like your current boyfriend very much. he also needs to understand that by being his freind, you had no intention in leading him on. if you have already told him "no" once, and he keeps persisting, it tells me that he is either obsessed or has deeper issues that he needs to resolve.
it sounds to me that you have already done all that you should be expected to do. you were honest and gentle with him. if he keeps on, you can tell him that you do not appreciate being hounded and that his current attitude is a bit alarming and that it can damage your current friendship with him.
at that, he should see that it would be better to be your friend, than nothing at all.
2006-10-08 10:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be friends, these guys r good to keep around, they will be there for u, and also by being friends you will have ample time to get to know him, meaning that if things ever ended with you and your current man, then you could talk too him. Its only after we can experience new things that we find the flaws in the old things... take it how you want.
2006-10-08 10:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by amomg2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In his mind maybe you did lead him on. Either go out with him once and tell him there is no chemistry or..tell him you are sorry he got the wrong impression from you .
2006-10-08 10:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keeping say "no" to him if he asks you out! This immature guy will get the hint after a while. It takes time for kids like him to get the point.
2006-10-08 10:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by Your Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't sound that nice if he says you're leading him on. Keep telling him no and if he doesn't believe you, cut out your friendship. If he's only trying to pull you, he's not really your friend so you're losing nothing!
2006-10-08 10:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by Cold Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. u could make up a lie and tell him that u have a really jealous boyfriend or just tell him that hes not your type. or just tel him ( if he doesn't know about your boyfriend) that u are not looking to be in a relationship right now
2006-10-08 10:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by Princess_k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋