Would any girl date a disabled guy?

Question

I am a good looking disabled guy. I use a power chair to get around. I'm not paralyzed, but I have muscular dystropy. I've tried to put myself in a girl's shoes and tried to imagine what a girl could find attractive in someone like me.
I know 98% of women would not date someone disabled.
Please, no comments like it's your personality that matters, what's inside that counts, bla,bla,bla. We all know if you don't pass the physical attraction test nothing else matters, for guys and gals.
Only the truth, please, not statements to protect my "feelings".
Lying hurts more than hearing truth.
If you think I'm wrong about all this, tell me.
Here's your chance to anonymously tell it like it is.

Answer 1

I would date a disabled guy if he is a person who doesn't see himself limited by his physical disability, if he knows what he wants in life and strives to achieve it the same way as a non-disabled person does.

Answer 2

well i think that this is a touchy topic.
you are right. most women would not date someone disabled.
thats just how it is, and most likely how it will always be.
but i'm sure there are some decent women out there that would look past that. i know i would. being disabled does not mean anything, you are still a person, probably a wonderful person at that.
any girl that does not see that, doesn't deserve to be with you.
i'm sure there are girls out there that would love to be with you and you will eventually find a good, loving woman that will love you for you.
good luck, i really wish you the best.

Answer 3

Yes, it is possible. There are some really shallow girls out there and some who really aren't. You may have more of a chance with someone who understands what you are going through but it's not like it'll never happen with a non-disabled girl. My friend Darcy dates non-disabled girls. He's never dated a disabled girl. (Not because he doesn't want too.He's just never met any he's gotten along with) He's just that great of a guy. I'm sure you'll find someone regardless.

Answer 4

you say not to say that personality counts and blah blah blah, but it is true, I have dated a few disabled men and nothing scared me or felt weird about them being disabled, although that could be because they didn't feel uncomfortable with it themselves they had enough self-esteem and confidence in themselves that it their disability never entered my mind as a problem or a flaw..the main concern I would have if the relationship were to become serious is if everything were mechanically sound, I could never be with a man without being able to enjoy a health sexual relationship, with or without a wheel chair.

My only guess as to why you may have a problem is most people assume that everyone in a wheel chair no longer has use of their sexual organs. I'm not sure how you can fix this, going around to every girl that peeks your interest and saying..."hey my penis works" may not be the best thing.

Answer 5

I don't know you, so I am not trying to "protect" your feelings. But for me, it really isn't the outside of a person that matters. I have had my share of people in a wheel chair, my mom had ALS and was in a wheelchair before becoming bed ridden, when I was 15. We had gone to an amusment park and some kids from school saw me pushing her chair and they made fun of me. That was the only time that I ever fought in school. I was standing up for her and her condition.
It is not whether you can walk,run,skip or jump that matters. It is the person that you are.
I know that my mom danced in her chair and had a blast!
YES I would date someone that was disabled! In a heart beat.

Answer 6

In some ways you are correct,But a girl,woman looks at a man for protection,as well as love,sex,fun,laughter,someone to take walks with,play around with,joke and have a wonderful time with. How many of these things can you do? I'm betting most of them.The sadness in this situation is your not trying hard enough.This will be a hard job to find the right one but she is out there somewhere.You can be loved and you will be someday.The down fall in this is it is hard to find someone who will have to help you do the things you will need help doing.. that is where your problem begins. Good Luck in your search.. don't give up but be very particular.

Answer 7

I would date a guy with a physical disability. If you have a close female friend, perhaps you could get her opinion on what you could do to improve your chances of finding someone. For example, the way that you are approaching women etc.

Answer 8

The way I see it is, if a person can't get pass the fact that you are disabled, then you don't need them anyway. There is someone, for everyone, you just haven't found that someone yet. You are a human being, just like everybody else. You seem like a really good man, someday, you will make somebody a wonderful husband. Take care and God Bless.

Answer 9

I would date you long as you had something going for you. I mean you say you look good do you dress nice do you take care of your self besides disability what other income do you have coming in it is a shallow person that sees the chair and shuts completly down

Answer 10

In my case, I would probably avoid a relationship with you. No matter how great looking you were. But this has no reflection on you. I am the problem. If I could get to know you in a friend like atmosphere, and conquer my inhibitions, and become comfortable with the situation, then I would , (if we were compatible) want to take it to the next level. Now, how do I know I would act like this? Because I have several members in my family that have a disability. We don't seen them very often, so when I do see them, I am uncomfortable mentally, on how to treat and act towards them. I worry about every detail and I try not to be offensive, which I have learned, treating them this way makes them uncomfortable too. But in a few days, things get comfortable, and I move with ease and am back to being a normal person. I am not proud of this side of me, but I am "disabled" mentally for acting like this. So, do you want to be friends with a person like me, because I would love to get to know you! Check out my 360 and if you think I am the kind of person you would like to have as a friend, then "so be it". I need someone to teach me things I "need" to know, so I can broaden my horizons, on all levels.