why do teenagers think everything centers around them?

Question

one of my daughters she is 18 and thinks everyone should do everything for her and throws a tantrum when they don't

Answer 1

give her the big picture...tell her that she's not the only person on this planet and to get over herself...treat her like she treats you....turn the tables lets see how she likes it...she's a brat

Answer 2

The teen years are difficult simply because they are at an age where they start making their own decisions yet they still have the security and support of their parents. They have no concept of what it takes to keep the lights on or to keep food on the table. Given that, its not too unreasonable for the mindset of a teenager to be such that they think that they are owed everything that they could ever want or desire. They might decide that want a particular kind of car and then think that their parents are supposed to buy it for them. When the reality hits, thats when the tantrums start.

Answer 3

Hi!

I think it's because they think they know it all, don't they?

I truly cringe now at the things I did and said when I was at that age!

Also, I tell my kids that I can't wait for them to get houses of their own, coz then I'm gonna:

1. Go round and leave towels on the floor - especially a bath
towel that I have only used once and that was to dry my
hands on!

2. Not flush after I've pushed (!)

3. Go into the fridge and take a bite out of everything in there!

4. Leave jam in the butter, and butter in the jam!

5. Wake them up at 1am and ask them to give me a lift
home from wherever I am!

6. Go round and switch every light on in the house, even though
it's only 11am and bright sunshine outside!

I'm sure I can think of more, and will do by the time they move out!

Hope this gives you a bit of a giggle!!

Answer 4

I don't know, but my teenage daughter is the same way. My daughter knows not to throw a temper tantrum, in front of my husband and I, because it will not work. I told if she wants something, you must earn it. We told our daughter that when she gets into the real world, nothing is going to be handed to her, you earn it, if we give our children anything they want, then we're not teaching them the importance, of working for what you want.

Answer 5

During the teenage years, a child spends so much effort trying to define their own personality and place in the world that they often forget that they have obligations to others. It's all part of the process that leads to them eventually being able to separate from their parents and live an independent life. When they are truly mature, they will have learned how balance their responsibilities to others with their individuality.

Answer 6

Teenagers are going through a physical change not only in their bodies but in their brains too. This means that they find it much more difficult to empathise with other people than they will once the changes are complete. The only thing to do is to stick to your guns and not back down - the simpler the rules the easier they are to follow! Once the brain development is complete you can then start trying to rebuild an adult relationship with the lovely young woman who will emerge.

Answer 7

18???????? That kid must be very spoiled if she stil throws tantrums. I'm 13 frickin' years old, and I don't throw tantrums! And I don't think everything revolves around me. And my boyfriend doesn't think like that either! So don't think that every teenagers are like that!

Answer 8

I have 2 teenagers - a girl and a boy. I don't go through that craziness. At there worse, they represent the crap that you put your own parents through. So when they act like that, ask you, do you have unresolved isses about being a teenager? Then, tell your tantrum throwing kid - as long as she/he lives rent free - suck it up and shut up.

Answer 9

You raised her. I wouldn't think this JUST started to happen. Make her do everything for herself now. Break the cycle. Since she's 18 kick her out of the house and see how fast she comes crying back home.

Answer 10

Hummm....I'm not exactly sure why, but we like the attention, and things should always go our way regardless of the circumstances, I know this may seem sarcastic, but it's the truth...your daughter, myself, and the majority of teens out there really need to take in concederation other people's problems and delima...we'll out grow this eventually...it's also based on the society we live in today...

Answer 11

i was a brat when i was 18, but i was an only child. i think it's a teenager thing with some kids and with others i think they learned it from their parents. in my situation it was half and half. i was a spoiled only child AND even though my parents raised me right i still thought everything should revolve around me, because i was a teenager. luckily, we grow out of that! :)